Divorce Decision

I don't understand the question. When you are ready you are ready.

For me, I realized my marriage wasn't working for a while. I asked my wife to go to counseling. She refused. We got into an argument. I slept on the couch for a couple of months. I asked one more time if she would go to marriage counseling. Then I was ready. I got my own room in a temporary cheap shared apartment and I moved out.

Once I was ready to make the decision (which I really made before the last attempt to get her to agree to counseling.. although I would have probably changed my mind), it was pretty easy.

I have never regretted it.

What “place” do you want to be in 4 years?

Couples in intolerable situations stay together for money, the kids, or sex. Which one is it for you?

Health insurance and money.

If it is an abusive situation - then yesterday.

Why 4 years if you are being abused?

Where do you live?

I would think in a settlement - say for instance your spouse is the health insurance suppler and s/he earns more money - then in the settlement the person may get insurance coverage and alimony.

Talk with a divorce lawyer and see what they say. Also if you are the spouse with less money your spouse may be required to pay for your lawyer.

It all depends on where you live - why you need to talk with a lawyer.

What are you doing to earn your own money and set up your own insurance?

I work full-time. I save every dime I can. My work does not offer insurance.

Are you sick? In need of constant Dr’s care?

Would you qualify for government assistance for health care? If your spouse makes more $$ than you or has current coverage, the court can award you coverage as a term of the divorce.

Your psychological health is as important as your physical. You are damaging your mind and body by staying in an abusive relationship.

Seek counseling. Your priorities are messed up. Self preservation, first.