It's me..the long lost Nappy with an update from Hong Kong..

Well obviously I have some issues at hand otherwise I will not be posting here.

Flash back to a couple of months ago as some of you may recall. I visited her in Vancouver, got her a temporary engagement ring. Anyway, we have now just recently ordered a set of "Real" engagement rings yada yada yada. I have also been spending a lot of time with her and her family and extended family. Likewise, she has been spending a lot of time with my family etc.

However, I feel insecure at times. As you may recall, she met some dude several months back at party that she liked and talked to through MSN for a while. Anyway, that one day, and the following events, perhaps destroyed some ideal vision I had of her. She was always the one who questioned whether I WOULD LEAVE her, always the one who instigated love oaths etc. Anyway, I went from feeling I was on top of the mountain with a girl who would love me always (call it naivity) to well....the complete opposite.

So here I am sitting in HK. We looked at rings together and bought a pair. However, recently, she has been bytching about even the most minor things I do "wrong". It seems as if she is extra sensitive about the stupid things I do that has always been a part of me. She was honest to me in the past and now I ask her again, if she is sure she wants to be with me. I tell her that I now realize that I now don't care if she she wants a break or wants to be with someone else...I love her and that her happiness is of uptmost importance. She seems to be less romantic with me, less patient and things aren't the same as before. I know, people and relationships change overtime. Anyway, she reaffirms that I am "the one" but to me, her actions speak differently...

Anyway, why is she organizing events where I see her and her family all the time. Why did go get a ring with me? AM I JUST INSECURE or what?
Additionally, she has just started her first real job at an investment firm so that may affect our relationship in some way.

Another note. BEFORE (meaning before she met the other guy) she was the one who wanted to get married ASAP. NOW, she wants to get married only after she has saved up some money because it is the responsible thing to do...and it is responsible in light of her parents. However, BEFORE, she did not give half a crap about what her parents thought. She just turned 25 so she is young and maybe her mindset has changed after work started etc...

Further insight on our situation. SHE is staying in HK to work fulltime. I am going back to the States to continue my studies in 2 months time. We are engaged and are gonna tell our 'rents and key family members about it after we get our rings. I just feel that she is doing all these things to FORCE HERSELF to want to be with me, to trick herself into thinking that I am the one AND to mask her desire to be alone or with someone else. I DO not want her to do that to herself.

A part of me tells me that our situation is different now. We are no longer in school together and we can no longer live together as we did during school. But another part of me tells me that it is something else.

What do you guys think? Or would u need more information...