MrBob329 wrote:17, its important because im very close to my parents and respect their feelings, also because i believe they know whats best for me. Its not like they have anything to gain by telling me this girl is selfish...so why not care what they think?
And trust me, this isnt like any other 17 yr old young love thing...weve been together and been through more then most married couples 30 yrs and older. That plus i would not hesitate to say im more mature mentally then many adults. So please dont speak to me like i am young and dumb.
There was no need to get defensive with me, MrBob. I asked your age for a very good reason. Parental approval is ten times more important at your age than it will be when you are 27, and it's even less necessary for most people's psychic wellbeing at 37. That's just normal. I wasn't speaking to you like you are "young and dumb." I just needed to know if your need for parental approval was age-appropriate before forming an opinion about your situation. Understand?
Now.
It's good that you respect your parents' feelings and are aware that they want the best for you. Undoubtedly they have watched you suffer through previous breakups with this girl and don't want to see you hurt again. It's that simple.
To be very frank, WE'VE watched you suffer, too. And we don't want to see you go through all that again. You guys don't have the most solid track record, you know.
The important thing is what YOU want....not what we want or what your parents want. If you think you can make it work this time, go for it. It would be better to be hurt again than to live with the regret of not trying.
But be aware...for now and in the future...that once you've been through a breakup with anyone and told people about it, those people will never be particularly enthusiastic if you get back together. It's much easier for YOU to get past the issues that caused the break-up than it will be for anyone else. That goes for friends as well as relatives. Expect it.
And best of luck this time!