He is completly honest with his friends and family about my age. I call his mom and talk to her, his friends know that I am 16. Etc.
I want to tell my mother. I have gotten to the point many times. But fear of losing him always stops me in my tracks. I do not lie out of shame or for the sake of lieing, I do it because I know what the consequences will be otherwise. When I turn eighteen, however, I will admit to my family that he is older than what I told them, and I will explain why I lied. Until then though, it pains me to keep up this game. I don't enjoy it, I avoid discussing him at any cost for fear that I will - once again - have to confirm the age they believe him to be.
This is the only time that I have ever been dishonest to my family. I am usually very open, dispite the lack of bonding and closeness between us all. I do not lie to rebel or to start problems... it's out of fear. Nothing more.
I understand why my family would react in a negative way at first. But I am afraid that the initial reaction will turn into more and, like I said, I will be cut off. My family is extremely conservative and look down upon me as it is. I just don't think that they would be able to look past a number and see what they saw before I told them.
Damn, maybe this should go in Relationships
Bella - I prefer not to disclose his age for fear of the same whip-lash that I fear from my family. His age is close to the one you mentioned though, give or take a few years.