really awkward situation...and i asked for it

Try getting him a pair of womens underwear for his next birthday and see how he reacts.

You have two choices:

Ask him
or forget about it.

Do you know without a doubt that it was him that went to those sights? Could it have been a friend/roommate/relative? Could it have been done under other than sexual reasons? Could it be he went to maybe a fetish site (straight) and those were some of those "million and one pop-ups" that you have no control over?

Is he gonna have to spend the rest of your relationship having to put up with you snooping around and TRYING to catch him doing something wrong?

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Well, you have a couple of choices. As Bella Dea said, you can either ask him, or forget about it. But I think that there is more to this than meets the eye. Looking at transvestite sites does not NECESSARILY mean that your boyfriend is himself a transvestite. Some guys are just curious, especially if they are young.

It seems to me that you would like to know if looking at these sites means anything about your boyfriend, other than curiosity. You might ask him, if you are really disturbed about it. Then again, his finding out that you snooped may put a crimp in your relationship.

It is up to you, and how much the entire issue upsets you. One thing that I would say, though. Wait a few days, and see how you feel about the situation before you do anything about it.

You could be very casual about it. You might say that you were surfing the web, and inadvertently hit the "history" link. He may or may not believe you, but that is the chance that you will have to take.

At least he's not checking out clown porn. Which reminds me, I should delete some files before my girlfriend comes over tonight.

Haha...yes, I guess you have find SOME type of humor in such an awkward situation! Well, thanks for making me smile, Gargamel! I guess I will just have to write this off as a mistake on my part for snooping, and perhaps a mistake of his as well? I just hope I can move on from this w/o it driving me crazy.

He didn't necessarily visit the site the cookies are from. Do a little expirement - clear the cookies out of your PC and then go to 4 or 5 popular WWW sites (CNN, Amazon, etc..). Now go back and look at the cookies.

Did you visit all of those sites?

If your b/f is visiting porn sites then he's going to get bombarded with ads from other sites and porn sites are notorious for using all sorts of cookies.

Good point fishin'

And really, it isn't any of her business what's on HIS computer. If he were on her computer.....

Then again, he could have been going after the tranny sites and gotten bombarded with cookies from straight ones.

My girlfriend is extremely jealous and used to always snoop on my computer.

I got so pissed of one time, that I actually blatantly put porn on the desktop (so she would find it) just so I could explain to her that if she wasn't going to trust me then I might as well enjoy it.

Needless to say she stopped snooping. every now and then I catch her trying to snoop, but it doesn't bother me that much anymore.

Anyways, as someone has already said, cookies are not a good indication of websites that someone has visited. There is a particular file which is hidden and will show you this information (Thanks Micr$oft), but cookies is not the answer... try trusting your BF

Anyone who desires computer privacy should know how to set up a password for logging on.

Re: really awkward situation...and i asked for it


A teacher friend of mine, a couple of years ago, tried to Google search for material to do with "Assertive Discipline", which was a new method of dealing with bad behaviour in schools, being introduced to the UK from the States where it had worked well.
Quite a few results came up, and not exactly being in tune with the internet and its contents, he clicked on the first one and.....well, lets just say that leather and whips played a big part.
Imagine what his Partner would have thought if she found the Cookies.

What I'm trying to say is, what you found is not necessarily what he was searching for.

To support this, I can tell you that, having worked in the British legal system for the main part, I have often been told by Police that, when investigating a Paedophile suspect, they cannot use just "Cookies" as evidence, as it is well known that ordinary adult porn sites number in their thousands if not millions, and many of those have devious links to illegal child sites. It is quite common for a "browser" to inadvertantly "stray" onto one of these awful places, by clicking an adult sounding "link".
That is why they tend only to go for evidence of pictures on the hard disk, or evidence of subscription to one of those sites.

Chances are (hopefully), your man browsed over to the Tranny site by accident.
It's when you see that site set as one of his "favourites" that you have to worry.

I hope it works out OK for you.

So Ellpus, are you saying I should take that transexual aborigine bukkake porn link out of my faves?

Why would you do that, cjhsa? Everyone has needs, don't deny yourself.

I would leave it there for now cj, but if you wish to continue with your full access Membership, may I remind you that I havent received your payment as yet.

Yup, index.dat or somesuch :wink: