First boyfriend dilemnas!

Re: First boyfriend dilemnas!


This says to me that your fear of rejection, isn't as much about a lack of self-esteem in yourself........but more about your fear of losing him. Of being alone. Perhaps coupled with a lil bit of insecurity concerning you and how you feel about youself.

In our lives, we are all rejected, one time or another. It's just another one of life's little "pains" that can be a lesson for growth.

And when you think about it - rejection doesn't need to be taken personally. Not everyone can fall in love with us . Nor can we fall in love with everyone. Imagine the chaos that would create!

Let yourself know that it's ok to be rejected. If that rejection is from someone we love - the pain might hang around for awhile. But we, as humans have a knack for picking ourselves up and moving forward.

Allow pain to give you "gain." If something were to happen and you and your boyfriend broke up ..... not all would be lost. You would end up wiser and with a little bit more experience for the next relationship.

Enjoy today ..... and try to not worry about tomorrow. Always remember that you are unique and special. There is only one of you in this world.

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As far as how long does it take to fall in love. Each person is a little different. I, personally, am a person that has alot of love inside of me. I almost instantly feel that love - even for strangers that I meet. But that's a different kind of love. One born of caring.

The love I give to a man starts from that seed of caring and evolves into something else. I have never been "in love" with a man from the beginning. That takes time sweetheart.

Although at your age - it can be hard to distinguish. All I can say is give it time. You are young and you probably will have many boyfriends before you find the right one.

Enjoy this time in your life. Truely have fun with it. And try not to let it worry you so much.

thanks, u've made me feel a lot better!

Awesome!