Wed 19 Mar, 2003 10:10 am
When hearing this, it means:
(1) Have you married?
(2) Do you have any children?
(3) Have you any family?
"You don't want to do that" means:
(1) You must/should not do that. (Speaking with soften mood)
(2) You wouldn't like to do that, would you?
"Do you have a family?" could have any of those meanings, but I would think the most common would be "Are you married with children?"
"You don't want to do that," means "Don't do that."
I agree with patiodog. I also agree that it's a "softer" way to say it than just "Don't do that."
Yes, speaking with softened mood.
As with so many of these phrases, though, oristarA, a lot depends on context, expression, etc. A stern "you don't want to do that" can be very hard indeed.
Well, as someone who isn't married and with children, I'd still answer "yes" if I was asked this. I'd be thinking of my mother and siblings and nephews. I guess the answer is relative (no pun intended) to one's situation.
I agree with Padiodog as well.