Quote:me and my siblings are still marked for life
Yep. I bear that mark too and am also commitment phobic because of it. It's just unfortunate that adults can't seem to help themselves sometimes and say and do things that can have such a big impact on their children.
Quote:I swore I would never allow myself to be trapped in a relationship like that
Me too, Heeven. "Trapped" is the word alright. I viewed marriage as a "trap," one of those big, ugly steel things like the ones they use to trap wild animals. I sure as hell wasn't going to put
my little paw in that thing!
I guess that's pretty screwed up! But it's something I continue to struggle with.
BTW, I loved what you said, JP, about the relationship you have with your wife. Good for you!! That's the way a marriage should be. It gives all of us hope to hear that it
really can work. Especially if the two people involved love and respect each other -- and are willing to work at it.