@mark noble,
Your question is two folded. I think the best way to answer is probably first to explain importance of marriage in Islam and then focus on off springs and their rights.
Importance of marriage in Islam
In Islam marriage being an obligatory act is so important that it is declared to be one half of single Muslim’s faith. If we understand the responsibilities which come along with marriage and the benefits which a believer can get, you will see why it is half the faith.
Let me quote some verses from Quran and some hadiths related to marriage and its importance in Islam.
Some Verses from Quran with commentary:
Allah says in Holy Quran:
Quote:And among His signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect. (Quran, 30:21)
In this verse Allah tells us that he has created us in pairs in order for us to be a source of love and comfort for each other.
In another verse Allah says:
Quote:Your wives are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.” (Qur’an 2:187)
This verse is small but it is so beautiful and has very deep meaning. If married couples can act on this one verse, we will have no issues in our married lives. This verse demonstrates that Allah has made us to protect one another like clothes protect our bodies. Clothes hide our imperfections, they beautify our appearance and they are close to us when worn. This is the same for a husband and wife. They are there to hide each other’s faults, be close to each other and to love and support one another.
Marriage in Islam allows us to fulfil the physical needs (in a lawful manner) which is the nature of human beings. It allows us to procreate and have our own families. Allah tells us:
Quote:And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best.” (Quran 16:72)
In doing so we become more content with life as we find love and happiness with our families.
Some Hadiths of importance of marriage in Islam:
It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
Quote:“When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”
Marriage has great importance in Islam, it emphasizes on not to delay in marriage as there is another Hadith of Prophet (PBUH) related to marriage is:
Quote:Do not delay in three things; i) the offering of the compulsory prayer. ii) The offering of the funeral prayer when the dead body is present. iii) The marriage of a woman when her match is found.
As we grow into young adults and take on life more independently, it’s natural for us to want to explore and experience new things. This drive and energy of young people can be channeled in a positive way or a negative way. The prophet Muhammad (PBUH) told us:
Quote:O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty.[Al-Bukhari]
Marriage in Islam is there to protect us from committing certain sins such as lowering our gaze which is why part of our faith is fulfilled and protected from unlawful acts which displease God.
In summary:
Below are few reasons marriage is so important is Islam:
• It provides tranquility, peace, and security
• It is a bond of love not just only between two persons but between two families
• It is a source to experience love and happiness
• It protects us from committing certain sins and provides protection against the acts dislikes by our Creator.
• It is necessary for making family (for children)
• Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete one, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)says, “No house has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah than through marriage”
• Marriage is one of the most liked Sunnah in Islam as Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) married and also encouraged others.
• It helps us to be more responsible as I will explain this particular point below in relation to responsibilities for children. I am not focusing on rights for husband and wife because that will make this post little longer.
Off Springs and their rights in Islam:
Islam establishes a legal framework, and embodies a code of ethics, designed to protect the rights of an individual including his or her right to live in a secure society. For children, security is of the upmost importance. The rights of a child begin even before birth; in fact they begin before conception. The Quran and the authentic traditions of Prophet Muhammad make it clear that two people should not enter into a marriage carelessly. A great deal of thought and preparation is necessary before man and woman commit to each other and to the family that may result from their union. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
Quote:A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, and her religious commitment. Marry the one who is religiously committed.
If a man and a woman have both dedicated their lives to worshipping and pleasing their Creator then the rights of any children they may have are automatically guaranteed. Worshipping God means obeying His commandments and His commandments include securing the rights of the child. By marrying rather than having an illicit relationship the couple has already begun to secure the rights of their future children. A child has the right to know and understand his or her lineage.
Once a child is conceived, it has the right to life. The Quran makes it very clear that all life is sacred. It is never permissible to terminate a pregnancy because one fears being unable to financially support a child or another child. It is God, who is the Provider and Sustainer of all life.
Quote:Kill not your children because of poverty - We provide sustenance for you and for them (Quran 6:151)
When making a decision to terminate a pregnancy it is important to remember that having a child is a blessing from God and all such blessings should be accepted with joy and gratitude. There are many people in the world today who are not able to have children, therefore when God blesses a family with one, it should be a cause for celebration and happiness. However, children are not toys or possessions. With them comes great responsibility.
The Quran and the authentic traditions of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH)speak clearly about the responsibility that comes with raising a child. It is an obligation upon the believers to raise and care for children by bringing them up as moral, righteous human beings. Secure in the knowledge that they are valued members of the human race, and their particular families. Neglecting this duty could potentially lead a person away from the path of righteousness and away from God.
Quote:“O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from God, but do that which they are commanded” (Quran 66:6)
Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:
Quote:Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock. A woman is the shepherd of her husband’s household and is responsible for her flock (Sahih Bukhari and Muslim).
Caring for and raising children in the proper manner is a duty on parents and it is not always easy. In fact, God reminds us in the Quran that children may even be a great trial for their parents. The triumphs and tribulations of life are a test and children are no exception. They can bring great joy and at times they can bring great sadness as well. God in His infinite wisdom never leaves a human being alone and unable to face all of life’s trials.
Quote:Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas God, with Him is a great reward (Paradise).” (Quran 64:15)
Following the teachings of Islam enables a believer to face all life events including the trials the tribulations and the triumphs. The correct Islamic advice for raising and rearing children covers all aspects of life. Just like Islam itself, it is holistic advice. Physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing are all of equal importance. It is interesting to note that Islam has always covered the rights of children. The Islamic view of childhood states that it is a unique period in an individual’s life. This is in sharp contrast to western/European ideology where the concept of childhood was not addressed until the 16th century. It is not that the west did not have children or young people but rather they considered them to be small adults with the same needs and wants as adults which we know is not true.