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Tue 14 May, 2019 05:07 pm
So I am a 21-year-old female, who is still a virgin. I recently got into a new relationship and we were discussing previous partners. When I mentioned that I hadn’t had sex before, he asked me why. So I said that everytime I think about myself losing my virginity, it grosses me out. I’ve had opportunities before my current boyfriend to have sex but I always find an excuse to get out of it. I’m not grossed out by porn and I have masturbated before. The idea of sex in general doesn’t bother me, but me personally having sex bothers me. I don’t really see other people in a sexual way, only in a romantic way. Could this mean that I’m asexual, or could it be something else stopping me?
No, it only means you haven't found anybody you want to make it with.
Knowing how to take care of a man is far more important than humping.
@Red1026,
There could be a self-image problem, as in "i am above all this animal nonsense". Or as JV said, maybe you never met a guy who made you feel horny, yet.
Nobody is "asexual", by the way. Over and beyond human beings, living organisms are sexual 99.9% of times. I suppose viruses are asexual, but that's pretty much all.
@Red1026,
There are people who identify as asexual. The only important question is whether you are happy.
It could be something else that is preventing you from having sex. If you want to explore this, you could talk to a therapist.
There are people who identify as Napoleon Bonaparte, too.
@Olivier5,
Olivier5 wrote:
There are people who identify as Napoleon Bonaparte, too.
And they actually were Napoleon Bonaparte (at least for several of them).
@maxdancona,
:-) Several, maybe, but not all...
No, you haven't found anybody you want to make it .
@Red1026,
Maybe you're asexual and maybe you have a psychological reason for it. That's for you to explore. Be good to yourself, do what feels right to you, and only trust yourself to relationship partners who will be supportive of you in doing those things. You may find through doing that that you are interested in sex in such a situation, or that you aren't. Whatever makes you feel good about being you, do it. Sex should be something you enjoy, not something you feel like you should be enjoying. If you're in a hurry to answer that question, you could consider seeing a sex therapist.
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