Re: Once a Cheater ALWAYS a Cheater?
Many people say that once someone is a cheater that they will always be a cheater... What does everyone here think? Also what is your definition of cheating? IF you cheat once are you bound to cheat again or will you learn from your mistakes??
Absolutely, yes. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
"Cheater" is a label that we apply to someone. It has less to do with how they are, but mostly to do with us. We are doing the labelling according to our perceptions and beliefs about how the world works. And we don't like to think beyond a simple model or blind rule. Certainly, no one can conform to a label all the time (especially the simpler stereotypes!) but we still insist on using them.
Once we label someone, it's very difficult to remove it. Our mind is made is up. We expect them to cheat. Therefore they are a cheater.
They can give up drugs, get a new career, go back to school, build great relationships, dedicate themselves in many ways and create wonderful things in the world ... but their reputation is tarnished. It's over.
The person is not stuck. Our judgement is stuck.
The person is not dishonest. Our stereotyping of them is dishonest.
We don't understand how they can go about living their own lives, without doing what WE want them to.
And because they don't conform to our uninformed expectations we put them down and label them.
We expect them to cheat, so that's that. They will always be cheaters.