I can't let go of husbands past..........

June27- Welcome to A2K!

Remember, whatever your husband did, he did before he met you. Have you discussed the fact that you are bothered by your husband's past with him? If not, you really need to.

If after talking with him, you still are bothered by his past, you need to discuss your feelings with a professional. Remember, the past cannot be changed. Either you can live with the knowledge of it, or you can't. If you can't, it will slowly but surely poison the marriage. And that is not fair to your husband!

June--

Welcome to A2K.

Phoenix is absolutely right. You cannot change the past--but you can change yourself.

You worry:



Suppose instead of worrying and fretting that somehow you don't measure up, you decided to think "He's seen a lot of life and known many women--and I'm the one he chose to marry."?

His past can't be changed--your level of self confidence can.

maybe by being with so many other women, he's learnt that that just isn't enough

I can understand your unhappiness, I hate thinking of any guy I care anout being with other people but I think you have to look out for the guys who *havnt* had enough experience in that area.
He has obviously had enough and he has chosen you, out of everybody in the world, to settle down with.

As Bekaboo says, he has realised there is more to life than his past and wants to make a better future with you.

Ask yourself these: Why did you marry him when you know he has a past? If you could forgive him and settle down with him, why worry now? Are you losing confidence in yourself? Why did he chose you? Is he faithful/unfaithful to you after marriage? Is he handsome?