I'm not offended by chai's post in saying there are delusions, however your post, CoastalRat was very condescending.
Next time I'll simply call you delusional.
Re: For 1 If you say so. But based on your number 2 and 3, along with your original post, it sure seems like you think any guy who looks your way is romantically interested in you.
Re: For 2 Just because you had a gut feeling about one guy and it turned out to be correct because he gave you his number is no reason to assume that this other guy (who is married) likes you because he talks to you and your gut is that he wants you. This is nearly the definition of delusional. As for what your friends tell you, that is worth about zero.
Rd: For 3 Oh yeah, a married guy fixes you up with his twin brother and that automatically means the married guy was attracted to you. You seem to read an awful lot into simple things.
but it's not a crime to be attracted to other people while married.
Of course it is not. I'm attracted to women other than my wife. And you are correct, a mature, committed adult will not act on those attractions. And it is good that you are not acting on YOUR attraction to this man. But what you are talking about is IMAGINING he is attracted to you when he has done nothing to indicate it. That would be like me imagining every woman who talks to me and smiles wants me. See how silly that sounds?
I sincerely hope you're being rude to try to reason with me to not wait for this guy -- not to act like a self righteous jerk.
I don't think I was rude. We tend not to beat around the bush on here. I tend to tell it like I see it. Would you really rather me coat what I think in sugar just to make you feel good? Keep in mind, when you come to a forum and ask for people's thoughts, you better be grown up enough to listen without taking offense. It is called maturity.
Why do I think he likes me? It's not just this day -- he's talking to me a lot more and saying hi and bye more and more.
This proves only that he likes you (I like several of my co-workers more than some others) and enjoys talking to you. Not that he has a crush on you.
He's not going to show it or admit it.
Or how about this? He doesn't show or admit it because he does not like you in any romantic way. You are a co-worker who he enjoys talking to.
Now if he gives you his home number or starts inviting you out after work, then maybe he has a crush on you. But that is not what is happening. And since you already think me a jerk, let me just finish with this. You need to get over thinking you are such hot stuff that every guy who smiles and talks to you is instantly smitten with you. So just to reiterate, yes, you are waiting for nothing because he is married and has shown no interest in you other than as a co-worker.