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Fri 8 Apr, 2005 11:30 pm
so I decided that I am going to take the plunge and just surprise my s/o with a ring.
I did some reading, and people say that buying online is the best way, specifically, bluenile.com is reputable and has good diamonds. first question...anyone agree?
now, to my second question: I dont know what I want in my diamonds. With the cut, clarity, color, and carat, I dont know how to get the best of all of them, and save money.
Ofcourse, if you get the best, everything will be perfect. You know it is perfect, and you will be proud to show it off.
When I chose my diamond, I used all the highest quality, but the price was sky high....and when I took down the size of the diamond, the price was better. the cut, clarity and all that was described as "not visible to naked eye." but now, the stone is too small.
I want something that my fiancee will be able to show off....i,e, the diamond cannot be too small. I'm reading a site, and it says that usually a one carat will do..but with my budget, the quality cannot be the best then....I mean, for looks, and being able to show people, what is better? big size, mediocre qualities, or small size, very high quality? I mean, the sites says things about reflections and all that, but i really dont know if it will make a differnece to te naked eye?
what do you guys suggst is a good size?
Semidevil
I would suggest that the size of the stone--or even the existence of the engagement ring--is unimportant.
Does your fiancee really want a diamond ring to "show off" to people who actually care what size the stone is? You might talk this over with her; she may be less interested in this quality of flash than you think!
When my wife (since 1966) and I were engaged, I had a good job but very little money. There were handsome diamond rings in my family that I could use, but that seemed less than personal for such an intimate gift. After thinking it over, I decided against hitting the safe deposit box or borrowing money--and I gave her the only gold ring that belonged to me. She was thrilled with it--and genuinely pleased that, embarking on a marriage, I did not spend money that "we" did not have.
I told her that, when finances allowed, she could choose a post-engagement engagement ring that she'd enjoy. She never chose one. Eventually, she and I inherited a few very nice diamond rings, but she never got used to any of them, and we passed them on to our daughters, who do like wearing them.
To this day, the only ring my wife wears, ever, is her wedding ring (which I WAS able to afford!), with a special inscription engraved on the inside of the band. She returned my gold ring, which had served as our engagement ring, to me the day we were married.
If a ring to show off is unimportant to your fiancee, why not save the money and put it towards the nest egg it's nice to have when you begin a marriage? Then, if she really would enjoy a "rock," buy her one later when you have the many dollars it costs to buy a good one.
As other people have pointed out on a similar thread, not all women even prefer diamonds. For much less money--if you feel you just have to do an engagement ring--consider, with your fiancee, some beautiful but far less pricey stones.
Good luck and congratulations!
If she wants an engagement ring.
If she wants a diamond.
Best quality you can afford.
Make sure to see the stone in person - with a loupe.
ehBeth is right on! If your fiancee wants a ring and she wants a diamond, definitely go for quality. Good stones really do look better. And, if you're dealing with a reputable dealer, he or she will let you (or a diamond-educated friend who accompanies you) examine the stone with loupe, microscope, whatever. This is often a lot of money, so it pays to be a very careful purchaser. Also, as ehBeth wisely suggests, I'd buy in person.
Good luck!
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