John (Tovoj1) just disregard the response from maxdancona, who's:
1) seeing dollars in pretending to be a therapist and using the gullible to establish an phony "authoritative presence";
2) speaking on behalf of every able2know person, falsely reminding you that none of us is qualified to speak on the matter of sex;
3) generally speaking, an idiot.
Within yourself you have more wisdom to deal with your concerns than a million maxdanconas. Maxdancona, you may mean well -- you're certainly convinced you're God's gift to humanity -- but I suggest you forget about advising others on anything except perhaps how to tie shoelaces.
Stick to the porn, John ... that is viewing people ... real voyeurism could get you killed at worst. Is that what you want?
Lastly, all phony therapists and "authorities on everything" go **** themselves! It's for the best!