Wed 19 Dec, 2018 10:47 pm
So I recently started dating a girl I really liked and had a crush on for years, and we are sexually really compatible and its honestly been going really great. I really care about her and when we have sex its good, and we're loving and everything. But she also likes when someones aggressive and treats like a sub or a "little slut" and we talked about consent all that and comfort zones. And normally I really enjoy doing it too, but for some reason I can't fully bring myself to do it and I want. And I know if we do it once it'll be good but every time I try, I just kind of go back to the routine. And I don't know how to get over this hurdle. And we are intimate a lot, like a lot so sometimes a change of pace or roles is nice and fun. BTW we've only been dating for 3 months and its long distance so we don't see each other every day.
Any suggestions or how I can get in the zone
What is the “it” you talk about?
Being more aggressive in your lovemaking?
Or does she want even more? (Really rough sex)
Whatever, it needs to be mutual. So it has to be agreeable to both of you.
If you think you are boring in bed, then find some videos that can teach you how to be more fun and adventurous.
read bdsm text posts and take inspiration from those
Read The Topping Book
By Dossie Easton.
This is the official textbook of dominant sex. It talks a lot about the mindset of domination, and covers issues like consent and safety very well. And it is a light, enjoyable read. Even if you don't want to do the full BDSM thing, this book will help you understand how to be more dominant.
There is a "Bottom book" on how to be a good submissive that is also good.
2½ year old post, OP hasn't made any posts since then...just sayin'...
well, hopefully, he or she has figured it out