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Thu 31 Mar, 2005 06:59 pm
After my heart-wrenching breakup almost a year ago, I have finally found someone that I think I have the potential to fall in love with. We have known each other since Dec. and have been dating for over a month. Anyhow, he treats me SO WELL...he makes me feel SO special, and I dont know if that's just his "style" or if he really cares about me that much. I dont know how to reciprocate his displays...and if I do reciprocate, I'm so scared of "falling too hard, too fast." I know I cant go the rest of my life scared of being hurt again, but I don't want to be stupidly naive either. I guess bottom line, I'm having a hard time balancing keeping him at arms length and/or totally embracing it all. Any input/similar experiences? Thanks so much...you guys always give great advice, I appreciate it.
The road is in front of you. You won't find out if he's the one for you if you're afraid to travel the road. Trust your instincts.
My grandpa used to always say, "There are land mines in the road ahead of you. And the only way to avoid them is to avoid the road."
Take it from someone who knows, moving too fast can be a big mistake. One of my biggest regrets is having cheapend the famous "L" word (not of the lust variety) with over-usage. I'm not saying don't give this guy a shot. I think its good to stay dating. I just think you should be honest with him about your background, heartbreak, etcetera. And then, you can move foward when you're ready to take it on to the intimacy level (not talking about sex, though that could be included...talking about emotional intimacy). Hope this makes sense.
It makes very much sense to me danielle and I couldn't agree more.
welcome to A2K.
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