Husband watches porn daily

What is it that is bothering you about it?

what bothers me
What bothers me is that he stays up until 5am most days looking at porn and that I found him looking at stuff that, let's say, would make the authorities take note.

So, are you saying he may be considering becoming a man of the cloth?

man of the cloth
yes you are right

You are newlyweds - I don't think marriage should be discarded so easily.
I can understand your frustration ..... but you need to exhaust all avenues before you give up on your vows, IMO.

He told you that he watches so much porn - to kill time? Geesh. I would tell him if he has so much time to kill maybe he outta get a job. I know you said he's going to school full time.......but apparently that's not enough to fill his hours.

You are more liberal than most women that complain about porn. At least you don't mind him looking at it ..... you just don't want him spending so much time looking at it. Nothing wrong with that.

I would sit him down and tell him if he values the marriage ...he needs to work on finding a middle ground with you. Tell him he needs to let you know what is more important to him.... your marriage or porn. Tell him you don't mind him looking at it in moderation. You are just worried about him and the long term prospect for your marriage.

Try to talk to him calmly.....don't demand anything of him. Otherwise he will be on the defensive and you will get no where.

When you are done talking with him - kiss him on the lips and tell him you love him ....then walk away and let him think about it.

Then wait for his next move. If it's not the move you want .... try counselling.

I'd tell him you don't want him to get arrested for looking at little boys, and if he keeps it up you'll toss his computer out the window.

But if there's any good normal porn left over, send it to me.

(by normal, I mean beastiality, amputee victim porn, bukkake, ect).

appreciate the responses
I really appreciate your responses. I have talked to him. He still doesn't think it's a problem but said he will reluctantly go to counseling with me. He also mentioned that it doesn't mean he is going to do everything the counselor says that he should. I asked him to at least state his disagreement in the counselor's perspective if he feels that he doesn't agree with it. He seems to think that he knows how to handle this problem better than a therapist and is going to jump at the opportunity to do so. We will see what happens. Wish me luck.

Were you hinting that he's looking at kiddy porn? If so, he's a sick puppy, and you better point out in counseling what he's looking at, so he doesn't act on it in real life.

If he's a pedophile dump his ass. End of story. turn him in as well.

Seriously. That's a sickness, this situation is way beyond a woman complaining about her husband looking at porn.

well
I am not saying he is a pedophile. Only that I found that he had downloaded things on the computer that are very disturbing. Not even s&m disturbing. Yes kids. He says it was an accident.

Checking something out and having it show up once in history is one thing. Downloading is another.

Not to slam down on someone we don't know. But it is worrysome and I agree about having that be mentioned in counselling.

My own take if that happened to me is that I'd be gone soon..

Ah, this is problematic for me, as I am one of the people who is not enthused about people monitoring anyone else's internet time. I think we don't own other people, own their interests or their minutes on a computer, even in marriage.

I have agreed though that there is some point where involvemnt goes into addiction and that does affect a partnership, marriage or not.

So - I am uncomfortable about how you know this, but might be glad you've found out if this is a true interest of his.

I think he should see a therapist asap. As for your statements I deduct that porn has become a very dangerous vice for him, not only because of the kinds of porn he seems to be watching but also because he spends 'till 5 am watching it. This is a prototype case in which porn has substituted reality and became a vice and that's when porn becomes risky. Try to talk to him and try to get him into some sort of therapy -I'd highly recommend psychoanalysis-. Nobody who's watching child porn can claim himself to be healthy, that's a sickness, plain and simple.