my wife gets mad whenever im around other women

Hello, welcome to A2K.

Has she always been insecure about your relationship, or is this a new concern for her? Jealousy is almost always a reflection of our internal feelings of self worth (or lack, thereof). Unless you and your wife are trying to get past some prior cheating on your part, I would say she has low self esteem.

Can you give us some additional history?

some more hisdtory
we had a problem of me looking at porn before we got maried she found out and we almose got separated but that dose not exist anymore and ever sence that insident it was like it is now for about a year.

You've been married less than a year and you fight nearly every day about your perceived interest in other women. She almost didn't marry you because she found out you were looking at porn and hasn't ever really gotten over it. Is that right?

I'm afraid this is going to turn into a porn thread, but that's what it sounds like. Some women feel cheated on when their mates look at porn. Some don't, but it sounds like your wife does and from her perspective you might as well have been having an affair. There are lots of folks here who will hopefully jump in and offer you advice on how to move past this. Mine would be to acknowledge to her that you know how it affected her and that she sees it as something more significant than you do. It will take her time to trust you again, but if you're sympathetic to her feelings I think it can happen. I guess I'm saying not to fight back but to be sympathetic and let her know you want her trust.

Counseling. Go to counseling. You have trust issues in your marriage that need to be addressed before it's too late.

Suspicious minds make for broken homes. You are going to get burned even if you aren't acting inappropriatly. Get thee to a counselor, stat!

Good Morning Bella! I grew up hearing Elvis Presley songs all the time. My Mom loved him - still does.

Now I am sitting here singing Suspicious Minds. ARRRGGGHH! Get outta my head.


*looks around to make sure no one's listening*

That's funny because I was singing it as I typed it!

I agree. She sounds very insecure, and there's not much you're going to be able to do about it, except get fed up with her.

My ex was insecure like this, and there was constant arguments over what seemed like nothing. Luckily there was no marriage step, so I just walked. Only way the situation is going to get better is if she can lose some of her emotional baggage.

I agree with counseling and all that. But I offer a different perspective, just to be the devils advocate. Perhaps this is just her way of crying out for more attention? Maybe she wants you to be more interested in her and that sort of thing. I don't know. Just a thought.

She wants attention by telling him he's a pervert for talking to other women? Maybe, but she still needs help.

Well some people aren't the greatest at expressing how they feel. Does she ALWAYS call you a pervert? That's a little wacko but maybe she couldn't properly articulate what she wanted to say and only anger and obscenities came out.

Certainly women have done stupider things, trying to get men to pay attention to them. Gosh, lookit women's shoes!

And she DOES need help.... she'll probably be a lot happier with herself if she learns to trust you, bladeeta21.

Are you actually attracted to her friends? That's something that is really easy for her to sense, even if you don't think it's obvious.

Of course, it's not your fault, and goes back to something she needs to deal with.