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what should a woman do about such act

 
 
Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 11:41 am
My grand mother and her daughter live seprately from I and my mother,

then ones upon a time My step brother come to stay with I and my mother for some times,

And when ever day breaks my grand mother always come very early in the morning and call my step brother away from us.

Incase he may follow us to farm,
and she, my “grand mother” do take him to her own farm.

And she dont want the boy to go to his step mother’S farm “my mother” ...

So the boy,
“my step bro.”

Don’t help in doing any work in the house.

But does for my grand mom.

And latter at the end. Neibouring family member are expecting my Mother to be always feeding the boy always...

While he do nothing for the help of my mother,

but did for my grand mom.

Some times even if my step brother is doing nothing at home in the morning he will lay down till the hour he wants.

While i and my mother will be preparing for farm,

He will not mind,

but when food is done in the afternoon he come to eat with us.

While he dont do anything for the betterment of my mother’s home...

“Please what should my mother do about my step brother’s deeds“
stop giving him food, or what????
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chai2
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 12:52 pm
Has anyone tried to get everyone together and discuss the situation?

Maybe you and your mother could prepare a dinner of everyones favorite foods, and invite your grandmothers household over. After eating, when everyone is in a good mood, you can discuss.
ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 01:05 pm
@FabolousENTERPEE,
Is there a reason your stepbrother doesn't live with your grandmother and her daughter?
PUNKEY
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 01:12 pm
Tell brother to go live with grandmother. She needs him.
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chai2
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 05:22 pm
ehbeth and punky

wouldn't she need have get everyone together to discuss these why's and ifs and come up with these decisions?

ehBeth
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 05:34 pm
@chai2,
Someone is living on my home/farm and going to another one to do the work? they can eat/sleep at the other place unless they want to pay to stay at my farm.
chai2
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 09:09 pm
@ehBeth,
right, I get that.

I would also want to know what the step brother and grandmother have to say about this.

To me, the key would be communicating between the households first so it's all out in the open.

This really is a case where we are only hearing one persons view/story.

What is the condition of where the grandmother is? Is there even enough room for someone to sleep there? Is the definition of "farm" a small patch where she is barely eking out an existance and this boy/man is caring for her? Would he be paying for his room and board if he could?

This and a hundred other things run through my mind.

That's why I suggested getting the families together over breaking bread, letting everyone get comfortable, feeling safe, then talk about it.

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FabolousENTERPEE
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 11:34 pm
@chai2,
thank very much. thats a very good idea am very greatfull.
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FabolousENTERPEE
 
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Reply Sat 29 Sep, 2018 11:36 pm
@ehBeth,
no male child is with them again. so i think he dont feel confortable staying with them.
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 30 Sep, 2018 11:09 am
@FabolousENTERPEE,
What country do you live in?
FabolousENTERPEE
 
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Reply Sun 30 Sep, 2018 12:07 pm
@chai2,
nigeria
chai2
 
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Reply Sun 30 Sep, 2018 03:22 pm
@FabolousENTERPEE,
Just so you know, the people who have responded to you are from either the US or Canada.

Obviously there is a big cultural difference.

How are things like this handled in your culture.

Would what is going on be the usual way things happen?

If it isn't what would usually be done?
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