Making of a Lady

treat her like a million bucks, all the time.

Get a million bucks.

Welcome to A2k Handsome.

If she's an ordinary woman then she IS a perfect lady.

What is it you'd like to change about your lady?

Interesting question. What do you mean by "ordinary woman?"

what is a perfect lady?

I ain't no lady - and proud of it! I think 'tis a classist and , in the past, a sexist construction (ladies being supposed to be very put-up-with-things sort of people) - although I do begin to re-think as I get older - since I think manners and graciousness are no bad things - in either gender.

dlowan, if that is what defines a lady - manners and graciousness - can you 'make' a lady? And I do think that's a very good start for a definition.

So Handsome, I guess you don't make a lady - you might make a woman who has good manners and all that and that can be taught - but graciousness and inner values she has or has not.

Hmmmm - in Oz we have the term "A natural gentleman" - which means a man with intrinsic qualities of kindness and thoughtfulness and, I guess, dignity.

I see many "natural ladies" too - women who have had terribly poor, hard, often brutal, lives, with no education to speak of, but who somehow exude compassion and thoughtfulness, grace and, again, dignity.

I see many people born to wealth, good education and privilege, who are harsh, unthinking, narrow and repellent.

I see people in all walks of life and with all experiences who are what I would call "ladies".

Can you "make" a "lady" if we use my halting definition? - hmmm - dunno. Clearly not by injecting education, money etc. We come, really, do we not, to the question of how human beings are formed - what is genetic, what is influence, and what is self-achieved?

How do you "make" a lady? Well you could always ask your granny to knit you one....

LOL Roz! And welcome!

Cheers, dlowan!

Good one Roz, and welcome to A2K!