Was hoping some of you can shed some light or insight on to something about someone who puzzles me yet I think I am in love with so here goes.
When I moved here to study about one and a half year ago, this being my second major so I'm well past 20, I happened to run into someone from my old high school. I recognized her but she didn't know me, but we started talking and were hanging out for a while, seeing each other, going places and such.
The thing took the wrong turn as she had been one of those girls you notice but never talk to, or at least that was the case for me. She's very smart and cute and so. I fell for her, totally. She, on the other hand, was platonic and also talked about how she hated when guy friends couldn't be just friends. Well, keeping these emotions locked up is never right so I tried telling her once to establish some boundaries. I think she knew what was about to happen so she just made a quick departure and started avoiding me from then on, seems she got really scared of the whole situation and just wanted it to go away. That was about four weeks from when we met.
We haven't spoken since then (1.5 yrs ago) until very recently, two-three weeks ago now.
Since then I've been with someone else who turned out to a very bad experience so I don't want to rush into something new too soon.
But as life has it, never what you expect, this girl has been acting differently to me lately and even more ironically, we have both me elected to the board of an association so we meet at least every second week, and also informally.
I've also noticed things about her behavior, how she looks at me and how she stands closer to me than she needs to and so on or maybe I am just imagining things.
I, on the other hand, realized that none of my feelings are gone, I could be in love. At least I got all that sweetness, all the symptoms are there but I've promised myself to keep a cool head and since she decided she didn't want any of me the last time I was thinking am going to let her take the initiatives this time, IF things are they way I think.
So, people, how should I act? Should I be flirting or what? I don't want to cause a new mess by making her feeling pressured, because I think that was what happened last time or it was total miscommunication. I don't want to misinterpret things so maybe letting her do the moves would be safer?
Like I said, she's a wonderful person and there's nothing I'd rather want than to things between us develop in a romantic way but I don't know how to go about making it without breaking it.
Thanks in advance for any advice!