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Sun 13 Mar, 2005 01:49 pm
Me and this girl have been really close for 4 years, its kindve been an exclusive relationship without calling it a relationship...we wont be with anyone else intimately but we arent really "bf-gf" if u want to use that termonology. So recently, weve kinda been on a break from eachother and decided we missed eachother so we got closer again...we have been talkin about atually having a committed relationship but ive been reluctant because there have been problems like with us not being able to see eachother for a long time so ive been debating between just moving on with my life or waiting for her to be settled and we can have a relationship together. Im not gonna lie...im in love with her and if i move on im gonna miss her like hell, but id be missing out on maybe sum1 else...but i tell myself i should be supportive of her and be patient because the only reason id be moving on is cause im impatient...what do you suggest i do??? And i do want to stress we both care about eachother alot.
Your conflicted with your own feelings. There's something that seems to be missing from your post, and I'm not sure what that is.
c.i., you are not the only one who is a bit confused....
EMSFD....I am really confused by things you have posted. I re-read your posts since their inception on July 14, 2004 in order to garner a better understanding of your current situation.
I have read that you are 16. I have read that you are 17. I have read that you are 18. I have read that you are and EMT. I have read that you are a firefighter. I have read that you are an EMT AND and a firefighter. I have read that you are a graduate of the Citadel (And the ONLY one of those I know that one can graduate from is a military college in South Carolina) I have read that you have curfews imposed by your parents because you are still not of any legal age and live at home with them. I have read that you want to attend medical school. I have read that you and your friend of 4 years have been so close but that so many times she is too close with her girlfriends of years that you feel she is a closet lesbian. I have read that you and she care such a great for each other, but that you have also looked for and met other girls that have promise of a better future than with her.
Frankly, I am not sure who is really the less settled of the two of you.
Strictly based on everything I have read, I would offer up the suggestion to both just be good friends even longer than you have been. Whatever you do, whatever age you really are, time is on your side and if something is eventually meant to be between the two of you, it will happen in the natural course of things.
all of thats true...except the citadel thing...dont really remember the context that was in, but im 17 an a junior in HS, both EMT and firefighter, and yes strict curfews and my friend of 4 years is very close to her friends making me question it sometimes. The citadel thing tho....dont really remember that, dont deny saying it but i take that back, 17 and a junior...with a girl in my life who means the world to me but confuses the hell outta me sry to complicate things
EMSFD, You're still too young to even think about getting serious. You still have your education - and hopefully college in your future plans. What you think is love today can be very misleading, because most people change with age about responsibility. That's the reason why most young people nowdays wait longer to even consider marriage. Keep it cool.
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