Tue 14 Aug, 2018 09:56 pm
I've been with my boyfriend for about a year. We were engaged for about 6 months and recently called it off, due too a mutual agreement that we weren't ready. But i still feel as though I am unhappy. We've both recently started therapy and I found out my mother is borderline personality. I still feel as if I'm coping with this. Am I selfish for leaving him because I feel like I'm not fully invested and couldn't reach my ultimate goals throughout my healing process involving my mental health?
i find being with handsome guys keep me less depressed because they keep me active not thinking too much
Do what you need to heal. A parent with border line personality disorder can be incredibly unhealthy for the children. The depression can be controlled, but get counseling and I would suggest you not try to enter into a marriage until you feel balanced. You can do it. Good luck with recovery from depression.
You're not being selfish at all. And in fact, you're being exceptionally caring and grown-up about all of it.
Concentrate on what you need to do in order to treat and manage your depression. Right now, that's the priority.
Be healthily selfish. Surround yourself with people who are good for you and affirm your efforts. Distance (detach) yourself from anyone who makes it difficult for you - including your relatives.
I hope you are working with a professional counselor in a clinic that also offers psychiatric help in case you need a prescription.