Foxfyre wrote:Most women I think feel the trade off is well worth it.
Not the ones I know. A lot of women are annoyed that they have to make the trade... why does it have to be a trade? Why not both? It's been the subject of a whole lot of recent press, including the article that Panzade mentioned.
To me, and I've said this many times before in many contexts, the key to all of this is encouraging parents to parent, whether they are men or women. The parent I've been closest to through most of sozlet's childhood so far is a man, and he does a great job. He's every male stereotype, you'd never ever look at him and think "that's a stay-at-home dad", but he is. His wife works and is the primary (well only) breadwinner, and that situation works great for them. She gets the benefits long accorded to men, though she's probably much more involved then most men in "traditional" families. She has a wonderful family AND a wonderful career. She doesn't have to make the trade.
Now, not all men want to be stay-at-home parents. But men can be a lot more involved than most of them are these days (though that trend continues to shift.)
This is another area where gender roles are more confining than anything else -- it's not just women's gender roles. I've spoken before about how it's not just about men doing the diapers, it's about women relinquishing some control and supremacy when it comes to babycare.
That's not going into things that companies could (and usually are not) doing to make things easier for any parent.