best friends marrieage is over

Er, so you mean the husband was dating someone else's wife, and the wife was dating that same someone? Like "swapping" partners?

Sounds like a reality show, and the way the networks are heading these days, I would not be suprised if they're part of one.

What exactly does being Christian have to do with any of this? and what does your friend need help with? If she and hubby are splitting amicably, sounds like things are fine in her world.

I don't understand the concern either. Christian has nothing to do with this situation. Seems to me "splitting amicably" is the key. No need to interfere.

kaydee70 - Your friends seem to have their lives all together. Apparently it is YOU who has the problem. From the way you write, I infer that you have a certain conception of how a Christian behaves, and the couple has turned your expectations right on its ear.

My advice to you is that you stay non-judgmental in your dealings with these two people if you want to retain your friendship with both of them. If you attempt to project your own personal prejudices onto them, you may find yourself minus two good friends.

I think the Christian bit is the fact that hedonism, fornication and what essentially amounts to cheating (although i guess if they're ok about it then it's not such a big deal) hardly fit in with the Christian ethos!!
I agree that it's pretty weird... personally i don't see the attraction of swinging.
If your friend is a friend then she will be ok with the fact that you find it weird. You don't have to have this out - just agree to disagree. You will support her, but you don't like what they're doing. Many people would be uncomfortable in the same situation

A person is entitled to his/her own perceptions of what is happening. My point is that it is ok for her to find the entire situation "weird". It is not ok for her to lay a guilt trip on her friend. I am really curious as to what kaydee70 means when she says:



In her thread there is no indication that the friend even asked for help. IMO, she needs to be a friend, and mind her own business as to the particulars of the situation.

That's kinda what i meant too - it's not her place to turn this into an argument, but its also not fair for her friend to expect her to be ok with it. They just have to agree to disagree. I too am slightly intrigued as to how she is in need of help.

I still say for a real game of chance...try marriage