very antisocial teen

There isnt anything wrong with this at all! If you dont get along with certain types of people that is ok.
I think it is better to NOT make friends with people you dont get along with then to make fake friendships.
If you are not unhappy, not lonely, and you feel ok about everything, then no. There isnt a problem.
Being quiet and sort of by yourself is a normal thing. It is usually a sign of people who are very secure with themselves. :-)

There's nothing wrong with you, sweetheart.

Everybody has differences--and one of yours involves your comfort level with other people.

I'm glad you've asked someone. That's really good. There are a lot of people like you, who don't feel comfortable asking other people about it--or they are certain that they can't make it socially.

You can.

But, in my opinion, even though you aren't really sad about it--I think it is by far best for you to make steps toward socialization. If you go for too long happily not socializing, whe you ARE ready to do it--it may be much more of a challenge than you feel comfortable facing.

This is how social dysfunction disorders are born--and I don't want you to have to go through that.

There is likely, I think, some little thing going on with you now that is preventing you from socializing.

I wish you would take little steps to enhance some friendly acquintances.

<smiles at taintedemotionz>

Have to second Shewolf's opinion. I have always been shy and very much a loner, and have often been criticized for it, but you have to do what makes you happy!

Also, I think MOST people feel they "don't really fit in." Really! They may pretend they always fit in, they may want to always fit in, but they just don't. It's a great thing, because each person is unique. Treasure your uniqueness, and don't let anyone talk you out of it.

Taintedemotionz--

You seem to have a few different opinons. Which is good.

You certainly don't have to give up individuality or your uniqueness no matter which advice you take.

But, I guess you've heard the saying No Man (I guess this goes for girls, too) Is An Island.

As much as self-reliant people may like their own company--and this is really good---to be able to enjoy solitude--you want it to be an option--not a pattern you can't break. You say you're really quiet--and you don't fit in. You likely do fit in, as someone said--but HOW YOU FEEL when you are trying to socialize is what is important. You don't feel comfortable. You deserve to feel really comfortable in social situations.

Most people are in the pattern you describe because of a depression that they don't even really know they have. Or, something in their life is really attacking their self-esteem. You won't feel better until this problem is addressed. If you don't socialize, you won't have to address it--and you won't feel better... Do you understand?

I'm only telling you this because I have known many young girls like you, and I want to help.

But, you'll decide.

Sometimes, it is really hard to step out and try. I want you to know you can if you want to--and I think you'll be much happier in the long-run if you do.

If you decide to try--look me up here. I have some pointers that make it easier--and I'll give you a lot of support.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

At 14 I don't think you're supposed to have a social life. School related stuff should be it. You're not really old enought to do what grownups call social events.

Last year, I used to be the same way too. I only had 2 friends and I didn't do much.
But in the summer I made some new friends, and some new aquaintences, and it really is great to have somewhere to go on Fri nights.
*shrugs* So I'd say let things happen naturally. That's what I did, and it worked great for me.

If you're happy with the amount of socializing you do then there's nothing wrong. If you're really quiet and shy you might seem invisible to others. If you want to do something 'safe' over the weekend perhaps you could ask one of the people you talk to at school if they'd like to go to a movie over the weekend. Movies are a good choice because you only have to talk for a little while before and a little while afterwards and you get to spend the entire afternoon having a good time.

Hey there.

There's nothing wrong at all with anything you've described.

If you can't assosciate with anyone then work type situations can be tough but if you can hang around with the people at school the way you say that should be easy.

As long as you don't become lonely you'll be fine.

Some people just don't need other people much. It's not a bad thing, though there are some who will tell you it is.