Frustrations of a New Dad.

Congrats on the expansion of the ebrown_franchise!

Good rant. Lots of people need to hear that.



I've posted a link to a different article on the same research. For everyone mom, or dad, or aunt, or in-law, who doesn't think dad is vitally crucial ...

Decreasing closeness with dad linked to symptoms of depression, study finds



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as important as mothers are, fathers are even more important in this particular respect, according to this study. it's a study that is turning some people on their heads here.

Your not alone in the experiences you're having. Can't count the number of times friends, relatives, or aquaintances have said, "he's going to change the diaper?"

As an involved father you will be in the minority. People will treat you a certain way because of their preconceptions. But you have to recognise that it is their problem, not yours.

I'm offended on behalf of the women; the assumption is that housework is women's work?

My advice is to ignore the inconsequencial stuff (like hospital staff), address the stuff that really matters (like your sister-in-law), and focus on your relationships with your wife and baby.

And come here for advice, rants, or general sharing.

Congrats on the new baby! It sounds like everyone came through OK.

I can't add any advice to what others have said, but I will say this:

Your revenge will be in her first word.

:wink:

My daughter absolutely delighted in saying "Da-Da" and giggled wildly while shaking her head no when I tried to get her to say "Ma-Ma."

Congrats!!!

Since all the frustrations are (bar the inlaws) external to the family, I'm sure you'll quickly get the issues settled, ebrown.

It occurred to me that this is the opposite of Boomerang's "complete suckiness of being a girl" thread.

Two other items:

My personal rant: Why aren't there more changing tables in the frickin' men's rooms?

Also, society definitely has a bias towards women taking care of household stuff. Being the stay-at-home parent shortens a man's expected lifespan by seven years.

I just saw your new avatar, ebrown! Too cute. Ah, baby cheeks...

DrewDad, only just saw that about men's restrooms. Annoying.

I'm seeing a lot more "family" restrooms, where moms can take sons and dads can take daughters and (for the really plush ones) there's a little nursing nook. Also some have small (low-to-the ground) working toilets. And of course all the changing table/ diaper pail accroutements.

I approve.

Some places even have changing/nursing areas that are separate from the restroom so that anyone can use them. I approve of that too.

Oh, love the baby picture avatar, ebrown! What a cutie.