A new baby!! A new baby!!!
Congratulations to you, Dad!!
You have made some very interesting and thought provoking points that I agree with completely. You are one fabulous husband and one fabulous dad for taking the family medical leave to have your own time to bond with your child.
Forget all the crap that everyone else is saying and do it YOUR and your wife's way. Nip the rude or cynical statements made by others in the bud if you can as shewolf mentioned. It's actually very aggravating to mothers too when they have a new baby...it seems like "good advice" comes from everywhere and I think if we, as parents, listen to a bit of it, we are equally feeling lacking or inadequate in some ways.
My former husband was very much like you and spent a great deal of time with both of our children when they were born, just holding, snuggling, kissing and many times feeding as I purposely pumped breast milk into bottles so he could have some of that same bonding time when feeding too. The middle of the night feedings were the best. He would get up and get the baby, change their diaper, spend some time with them before he brought them to me for nursing. and then he would be the one to tuck them back into bed when the baby was full. He wasn't just "helping"! He was being an integral part of bonding..
Vent all you like here! Unfortunately, I agree that we can't change the stereotypes that have built up over the years overnight, but with more and more dads like you, maybe one day it will be the norm to society to see each parent as equal.
My best to you and the new baby and to the Mrs. May your life be forever filled with the joy that children bring to us all.