How should I know???

If he wants to He will let you know, you will not have to guess. Why? Do you want to have sex w/him?

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I can't say that I don't, I can't say that I do. But when your in a relationship that's usually what the guy is thinking about. I actually thought that what he was thinking about because he told me he wanted to make our relationship interesting and boys do think that getting pussy is interesting. But I just found out what he was talking about. I just wish he would have told me before I brought up the sex thing. But when we talked to him about it last night he said he took it as a joke and that he didn't take me serious. But npw that he found out that I was serious he didn't say anything about it. He told me that he didn't want to make me do anything that i didn't want to do.

I read your beginning post, twice. I shook my head both times.

First of all, you NEVER have to sleep with someone that you just had an argument with in order to "make it up to them." The fact that your relationship hasn't yet evolved into having sex, makes that statement even more important. You talk alot about what you think HE wants. But this isn't just about him. It's about you too.

What you described would be just that.....simply "sex." Don't get me wrong....there is nothing taboo with that in and of itself, as long as that is what BOTH people want. But that can be pretty meaningless. Are you prepared for what that might make you feel like afterwards?

Sometimes "making up" with someone you had an argument with can lead to making love but it's a mutual thing.

You sound young. Make sure you understand the consequences of your choice in this matter. There is no birth control that is fail safe. There is no condom that can protect you from unwanted std's 100% of the time. And there is no way to turn back time when we do things that are not right for us.

Let that moment between you, if it does come....... be spontaneous. You will not only enjoy it much more, it will be YOUR needs too. Not just HIS!

Listen to this beautiful lady Babbling Brooke, llkndr! I know I do! She is always incredibly smart and right on the money.

Have you ever thought that maybe your boyfriend enjoys the arguments just to see how far you are willing to go "to make it up to him"? Talk about controlling.

Just a thought......

Lady J......Thank-You kindly!

Well, it's very, very true and you are most welcome.

You Still did not say WHY or really even if you wanted to. Brooke IS Right. Honey, when it comes to SEX or MONEY, if you are not SURE (Really, really sure)... DO NOT INVEST.

I agree with all of the above. And as an added CoastalRat special, I will throw in this extra tidbit.

It really sounds as though the guy is acting very immature. Do you really want to have sex with someone who is beating around the bush about it? How old are the two of you anyway?

If he is too immature to ask, then I think he is too immature to make the decision to have sex and all of the possible ramifications that entails. But again, that is just my two cents worth.

If you can't talk about sex, you're too young to be doing it. That's my two cents.

Bella Dea- Good point. I really don't like the idea of llkndr's boyfriend playing cat and mouse with her.

I don't like it either Phoenix. You do this for me and I'll forgive you. If my hubby ever said "Suck my d*ck and I'll forgive you" I'd slam it in the nearest door and tell him to shove it. Love doesn't work that way. Now if she offered to do something after a fight, that's different. If I've been a bitch, sometimes I will offer to give my hubby a back rub once we've made up just to say I'm sorry. But never in seriousness has he said that if I didn't do something to "make it up to him" he wouldn't forgive me.

Bella Dea- I am not too fond of the entire idea of emotional blackmail.

My mom always told me in High School "Don't let that boy hold you emotionally hostage!" I didn't see it then but I do now. Why is it that mom's know so much?

'Cause mom has gone through the same crap herself, and has learned how to deal with it!

DO YOU THINK THAT MY BOYFRIEND AND I SHOULD STILL BE TOGETHER IF WE GO TO DIFFERENT SCHOOLS?