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Sat 29 Jan, 2005 01:12 pm
Just started dating a new girl and everything is going fine... apart from the sex..
Upon penetration i found it impossible to penetrate.. My friends ask me if she was totally relaxed, i'm almost certain she was. I could only manage to slide 1 finger inside, 2 at a push into her vagina. she is adamant that the problem lies with her, i comforted her and said that "Things will be alright next week" (we meet up again on Friday) And i dont know if things will be better actually...
I'm hoping it's just nerves that has caused this for her.. She said that because i'm a "big boy" in that department (not bragging) That may have something to do with it... But i thought the vagina was fairly stretchable anyway?
Please help...
Is she a virgin?
Actually, the first time with a new partner is always the most difficult. She may have been nervous, causing her to clamp unconsciously. My opinion is that things will be easier in the future.
Since she is adamant that the problem is hers, it is possible that she has had this difficulty before. Some women tighten up so much, that intercourse is very uncomfortable, even painful.
Each person has sex organs of varying size. If your girlfriend was relaxed, it is possible that she never had sex with someone of your size, and her tissues are not stretched suffiicently. Did you try using a personal lubricant, like K-Y jelly? That might help.
No, she's had 5 sexual partners prior to me..
I dont know if she was clamping unconciously but i couldnt penetrate her at all.
Is there any thing that I can do to help her at all Boris?
She had a smear test on Thursday and this has made her a bit sore but she said she was ok but i just had to be gentle with her.
I might try some form of lubricant for the next time we meet Phoenix
"If your girlfriend was relaxed, it is possible that she never had sex with someone of your size, and her tissues are not stretched suffiicently." ----
That was my thought but i didnt want to say anything in case she thought i was being a bit funny.
OK Phoenix... thanks for your advice..
Although i think Lubricant may be a god idea anyway just in case she still has pains..
Do you recommend this KY Jelly..? I've never used Lubricant jelly before.. are they all the same type of thing i assume?
Did you confirm is she was lubricated by herself? Otherwise she could have been really nervous. Remember that the vagina stretches as the sexual drive goes up, and so it's lubrication, so that can be a useful question to answer. If there's anything wrong psichologically she should see a doctor.
[quote="rodbogey"]Did you confirm is she was lubricated by herself? Otherwise she could have been really nervous. Remember that the vagina stretches as the sexual drive goes up, and so it's lubrication, so that can be a useful question to answer. If there's anything wrong psichologically she should see a doctor.[/quote]
She seemed pretty willing down there... I intend to try some form of lubrication on both of us the next time we meet up..
I've a feeling that it was just nerves.. I didnt know that the vagina stretches as the sex drive goes up.
If she was lubricated down there her vagina might have problems for stretching. Just go ahead and try so you can confirm if what happened was because she was nervous. In case the problem continues she'd better see a doctor.
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