The latest man being accused of sexual harassment is Aziz Ansari. But this story illustrates the problem with a political narrative run by social media. The details... which don't seem to be in question. This is all according to her recounting.
- The woman went on a date with Aziz and ended up in his apartment.
- He started to kiss her, undress her and fondle her breast.
- She said she "felt uncomfortable, but said nothing".
- He said he was going to go get a condom.
- She said "let's relax a sec."
- He then continued to kiss her.
- He briefly performed oral sex on her. Then asked her to return the favor.
- She did.
- She claims that she was giving "cues" that she didn't want to continue. She apparently said nothing intelligible to this effect.
- He asked for sex.
- She then directly said "No".
- He stopped.
- She cleaned up and left.
Now here is the question....
what responsibility do women have for their own actions? This a grown women on a date in a man's apartment. The idea of adults having sex in this situation is not unexpected. She clearly consents to oral sex. And when she says "No" clearly, he stops. I think Aziz's behavior was consistent with any single man who wants sex. Many women would respond positively to Aziz in this case, and many others would have the maturity enough to say "No thank you" clearly and leave.
The idea that women need are fragile creatures that can't speak up for themselves should be offensive to anyone who believes in sexual freedom or equality.
What do you think?
Original article (as recounted by the woman involved):
https://babe.net/2018/01/13/aziz-ansari-28355