@Leadfoot,
If pity is used when compassion is required then who really deserves pity? A pitiless person is also pitiful.
And to judge someone's behavior because it does not meet your standards or the standards of a book written by extremists, then you are sinfully throwing stones.
And a person becomes more egregious than those they judge by their harsh judgment itself.
To pity someone and say, "It is in their power to change their situation". Well, how do you know it is in their power? You again have judged and reduced the severity of their affliction to excuse yourself from having to help, accept or tolerate them.
Agape is not a power trip, it is humbling oneself. Those who deem themselves "superior" fall beneath those they judge.
Once again it takes wisdom to know the difference, love is the guiding force in judgement. Love is love...
Pray Don't Find Fault
Pray don't find fault with the man who limps
or stumbles along the road,
unless you have worn the shoes he wears
or struggled beneath his load.
There may be tacks in his shoes that hurt,
though hidden away from view,
or the burden he bears, placed on your back
might cause you to stumble too.
Don't sneer at the man who's down today
unless you have felt the blow
that caused his fall or felt the shame
that only the fallen know.
You may be strong, but still the blows
that were his if dealt to you,
in the selfsame way, at the selfsame time,
might cause you to stagger too.
Don't be too harsh with the man who sins
or pelt him with word or stone,
unless you are sure, yea, doubly sure,
that you have no sins of your own
for you know perhaps if the tempter's voice
should whisper as softly to you
as it did to him when he went astray,
it might cause you to stumble too.
Rama Muthukrishnan