i'm trying to destroy my libido (i'm a man)

<smorgs stumbles in on thread, face flush, heartbeat raised, dilated pupils and very moist>

Shaddix, I asked Mr S how often he masturbated at 20...he said whenever opportunity allowed!

Please don't seek ways to lower your libido...it's perfectly normal to masturbate frequently at your age.

The need will diminish with age.

It's good for you!

Since we're talking internet porn, I can't give you names of movies, just descriptions of clips. Like I mentioned above, the midget baby clip is unforgettable.

As for porn "stars", I tend to like girls with a lot of enthusiasm and innocent-looking faces. Bubbly heart-shaped asses and big natural boobs are also great. There's a girl who specializes in deepthroating named Heather Brooke that will knock your socks off. Also, Jenna Haze is incredibly hot and enthusiastic. Enjoy.

Marry an ugly, overbearing woman and start drinking heavily. In time, you lose all interest in sex. Other than that, for your age, I wouldn't be too concerned. Just don't cut off your balls. That's a real mess.

Make lemonade from lemons....become a porn star...in guy on girl porn you make 500 too 600 a day..in gay porn you can make up to 3000.....and if you can come 5 or 6 times a day you'll be rich in no time and you can afford some professional help....and one of those 5000 dollar love dolls.....listen to me kid, I'm giving you pearls here.....(well, not those kinds of pearls I'm straight)

You are all amusing the hell out of me.

I don't mean to put a damper on anything, but the addiction thing is definitely real. This is something that you're distressed over, it seems, and that's something to be worried about. Look into it. I work with ppl with addictions and have had a few myself. You can kick anything-- but you have to want it.

I know you said that you're all good with it now.... so what has changed? I'm interested in how you feel about it & what occurred to help you become "resolved".

I wasn't familiar with the term "porn" so I did a google search, just so I could contribute to this thread.

I found some sites that have porn. On the internet!

There's at least a dozen of them.

you're kidding right Gus? You're a kidder right?

HAAHAHAHA. At LEAST a dozen! Cute.

Thanks for the input dude. I don't know Heather Brook but I'm surely surf around. I certainly think Jena Haze is a hottie, she really seems to enjoy her work. One of my favorite ones right now is a girl with natural big rack named Avy Scott, I recommend you to check her out, she's just amazing!!!

I know her work. She's incredible.

She's absolutely amazing. Have you seen her squirt? That's absolutely amazing. Do ou think it's real?

I tried to google you some amputee sites Slap, but all I got was amateur incest porn....talk about falling in the sewer and finding a gold watch....

Ah, female ejaculation, my favourite topic!

No, but seriously...do you think it's for real?

Or is it just wee? :wink:

Found this:


Some researchers deny that female ejaculation exists, others are
unconvinced and see it as being akin to urinary incontinence; others still believe it exists but are uncertain of its cause. For those women who have experienced ejaculation, and for a lucky few who have learned to do it regularly, being told it doesn't exist is hardly inspiring!

The way society views the female bodily fluids and their release during sexual stimulation can have long lasting implications for female sexuality and sexual pleasure. Some women who are worried about the lack of control they have over the release of fluids such as vaginal lubrication, ejaculation or sweat, have been known to avoid sex altogether rather than risk feeling embarrassment in front of their partner. In the past, female ejaculation has been seen as an undesirable bodily dysfunction and a source of personal embarrassment, guilt and shame. There have also been frequent reports of disapproval and recriminations from sexual partners of women who ejaculate.

The roots of female ejaculation can be traced back to ancient Greece and Rome, India, China, Japan and Medieval Europe as well as to a host of indigenous populations across the world. However, it has only been in the last couple of decades that this information has re-surfaced, as Western researchers have referred back to the writings of people like Aristotle and Galen, to create a new understanding of female ejaculation.

If female ejaculation is viewed as natural and pleasurable, then a woman can feel unashamed of her bodily fluids, which in turn affects her personal body image, self-esteem and self-confidence. The fact that many experts portray activities such as female ejaculation (which are in themselves a healthy and pleasurable part of sex) as abnormal, can have a wide-ranging impact on women's views of their sexuality. This on-going debate is hugely significant because such biological issues have wide ranging social consequences and the potential to alter society's collective beliefs surrounding sex and female sexuality.

If anything is clear about the topic of female ejaculation in the UK, it is that a more open debate is required, and more research needs to be done. The last thing we need is for the issue of female ejaculation to be brushed aside, ignored, belittled or banned. But pointing the finger is hardly sufficient - we all have a role to play here in bringing things out into the open. Until more of us (and our partners) talk openly about things like body fluids, ejaculation and sex in general, we run the risk of continuing to marginalize these important, yet little researched areas of female sexuality

oh if only
I wish I had the opposite problem!!!!!!! Maybe I should start masturbating too.............

Real Help
First, I want to say that this guy has a serious issue, and one or two jokes is one thing, but porn addiction and/or an uncontrollable sex drive is not a joke. And the fact that you started talking about porn stars - well, let's put it this way: if I said what I really thought my membership would be canceled immediately and this post would be deleted.

So don't expect any humor in this post, I think we've had enough of that.

Now, let me give you an intelligent and relevant response :

I have the same problem, in fact, I am worse off than you. I masturbate 8 - yes EIGHT times a day (sometimes more). You say "how is this possible"? I'll tell you: everytime I do it I need to do it twice in a row or it doesn't satisfy me at all. I do 1 set of 2 in the morning when I wake up, I do another at lunch or early afternoon, another as soon as I get home from work and then another before I go to bed. And you say you have 22GB of porn on your computer? Dude, I have 120GB of porn. I have DVD rips of everything you can think of, I crack site passwords, I have dozens - maybe hundreds of directories of pictures. Need I go on?

The truth is I am addicted to sexual release. I gave up dating specifically because of this. I was having sex for 6 or 7 hours per night every single night, not to mention the 2 or more hours in the morning. This seriously disrupted my sleep and my career has suffered greatly because of it. So I decided the only way I was going to be able to keep a job would be to stop dating altogether.

Now, I know a lot of people say "I wish I had that problem - no you don't. Picture yourself constantly preoccupied with invasive thoughts and images, undressing every single woman you see as soon as you meet them - at work, in the store, etc.. and never being able to treat them as business associates. Picture yourself losing job after job, never having the proper amount of sleep, destroying one relationship after another because you can't stop cheating (believe it or not I have never had a girl complain about the sex, but they just can't trust me). Picture yourself a SLAVE of your own urges. That is what I was going thru. So maybe you can understand how life with an extremely overactive sexdrive can be hell.

And before I get the 'why don't you become a porn star line' I am a programmer and I love my job and I make great money at it. I like using my brain and I don't want a job that requires me to have sex with nasty dirty porn stars who've been f___ed by everybody in the universe.

I am a sex addict, and it is NOT funny or pleasurable. I do not 'touch little girls' or rape women or anything like that, I'm just way too oversexed and I need to figure something out before it destroys me.


That is my story which I wrote here so that I can show that I identify with what you are going thru. But what can be done about it? Well, I am struggling with that myself, but I have found some options that I am looking into that may help you. There is no way in heaven or hell that I am going to do anything permanent or be chemically castrated. Here are some of the options I have come across:

1) The one decent suggestion posted was to find other activities to preoccupy yourself. But I have been working out everyday and it doesn't help - in fact it seems to make it worse. But I am convinced there must be a way of taking my mind off it. I just haven't found that activity.

2) Anaphrodisiacs: I don't know much about this - and I am currently exploring this. What I do know is that SSRI's (Selective Seretonin Reuptake Inhibitors) reduce sex drive. The problem is there are other side-effects and the fact is that they are made by pharmaceutical companies who have no qualms about destroying your liver or putting you into a state of depression. But there MUST be herbal and /or holistic medications for this. I have not found any. I will continue to look.

3) Support groups. There are several "12 Step" groups that deal with sex addiction. I don't know them all, but I am looking to see if I can find one. I do know of a couple: SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous), CODA (Co-depence Anonymous), nomoreshame.com. This seems to be a better option than counseling to me, since counselors do not have your problem, and they just sit there and go 'geez, this guy is really screwed up!' At least that is the way it feels like to me.

4) Nevertheless, counseling is an option. I haven't tried it (not for this problem) but maybe it is a good option. There are some experts out there and no matter how bad off you are - or I am for that matter - I'm sure they've seen worse.

5) This won't work for me, but maybe you can hook up with a woman who has a high sex drive. Every girl I've been with has accepted this as part of the relationship. In fact, they all seemed to love it. Of course, I generally date girls from the age of 19-22 and now that I am 30 the immaturity is getting annoying. But they say that women's sex drive gets higher and higher as they hear the 'ticking of the clock'. That has not been my experience, but then, like I said, I am an extreme case.

And if you don't think you have what a woman will be compatible (looks, money, car, etc.) with you all you need to do is go sit in a few local bars for a night or two each week (not Friday or Saturday) and if you watch and observe you can see the guys a lot of women go home with are just plain ugly or even downright pathetic. The only thing that separates those who get the girl and those who don't is confidence (or perceived confidence) and effort. If you give her enough reason to believe she will enjoy being with you it rarely matters to them what you look like, how much money you have, what kind of car you drive, or anything else. Women want to let their hair down - be a real woman just as much as you want to be a real man. Provide a comfortable and fun way to do that for them without coming across as a desperate loser and you will be successful over and over again.

6) If you can stay away from porn altogether, I don't care if you have to convert to Islam, just do it. I know I can't do it. I've tried over and over. I have deleted gigabytes of porn several times only to build a new collection. There is much to gain from spirituality.

I am not a doctor, and I don't play one on TV , but I think your best option is to find a girl who is compatible with you. If you are as bad off as me ultimately this will not work, but it sounds like you are not quite as damned as I am, so I suggest you try this first and then see if you can find another way to deal way it.

In any case, I hope this provides you - or anyone else who comes across this post - a few avenues to explore for some real help.

My e-mail address is [email protected] if you want to confer personally about this.

ah, it's good to hear from someone with a similar problem. well. i was looking into depo provera, i'm a little afraid of the SSRI and SNRIs because i don't really like tampering with my brain that much, haha but i guess depo is doing the same thing, if only i could someohw cut off my nuts and freeze them until i'm married =(

Hi dozzer2005 and welcome to a2k. That was a wonderful post. You touched on a thought I had while reading the posts. If it supplants the natural pleasure you have with women it is a definite hindrance. When I was dating at about your age we did it 5 times in 7 hours. No problem. If you prefer masturbation, there's a problem. You're setting yourself up for a lonely life. There's no doubt in my mind that you've given this serious consideration. I wish you well.