Life at home

That should give him a Brazilizn and more.

Oops, Brazilian!

I've seen them in action. Those women. Icky.

Oh yes I did! I've told him about three different times. Twice about things that he has broguth up with Dasha after we'd already discussed and (to my mind) decided on the item. And at least once, during this latest speedo episode.

I swear it's like talking to a seven year old.

I meant right that minute, you didn't scream at him, I've already told you three times, you lunkhead!!!!

Not that that is mature behavior.
In fact I disagree with myself and think that screaming 'you lunkhead' is not the preferred way.

Maybe it's hurling - no, not hurling, just depositing - the banana sling - what the hell is a banana sling - against his door...
No, that's passive aggressive.

A quite, modulated, "hey, you don't listen. I told you...."

I wouldn't touch the banana sling (speedo bathing suit) unless I was promised a lot of cash. I told him, in the bathroom, that I had already told him I'd prefer it not be in the bathroom at all. I didn't call him a lunkhead or flick him in the face with his sling.

I told him AT the time that we'd already discussed the dish rack at the same moment as he was asking dasha about putting the dishrack in the kitchen (we both hate dishracks after having many bnecause they are always in the way, no one ever puts the dishes away when their dry, and they take up too much valuable counter space.

Well, that's good. It would be hard not to call him a lunkhead.


I have no useful advice, I'm just posting since I'm interested.

S'ok! I want to vent, but I also want to make people understand what I'm dealing with so you all don't start to hate me for bitching too much. So long as you're interested....... Once you're not interested, I'll probably still be posting, but you don't have to stick around.

Unlikely to hate you ever here. Bitch away.

Ah, thanks. Nothing like unconditional not-hate. Thanks Osso.

Unconditional understatement.

dont understand why anyone would need speedos in the shower/bathroom.

1. go in bathroom
2. close door
3. remove clothing
4. prance around nekkid making muscle poses
5. enter shower, wash bod and hair.
6. leave shower and towel dry
7. more prancing and admiring
8. put on clothing and/or robe
9. leave bathroom
10. Shout "hey dash, lilk wanna see some man meat"
11. Run for bedroom before being viciously attacked and severly molested.

Thats the way I'd do it.

<big grin> You too, Osso, I think "how silly!" when ever you ramble on about your rambling on.... I like that about you.

Dadpad, he brings the sling back from the pool wet and hangs it in the bathroom. It's not possible, it seems, for him to conciece of hanging it anywhere else even though he has set up his clothes drying rack (which he brought from OZ) in the basement. I realize that the basement is quite far away, and I wouldn't hang my skivvies there either. BUT, and this is the big point, I don't hang my drying skivvies in the bathroom either. If I hand wash a bra (shush!) and it's dripping wet, I set it on atowel for a coupe, hours and then hang it in my bedroom. I wish he would do the same. I really don;t want to have to look at the thing for the duration of my showers - he doesn;t put it away, it stays there until he goes swimming again.

At that we'd laugh because you would be showing a sense of humor.

Call me passive-aggressive then, but I'd shred that damn thing and leave the pieces on his pillow.

Grrrrr.

Okay, maybe first I'd warn him that I was gonna shred it if it happens again.

Then I'd shred it.

<grin>

You need a shredder? You can borrow mine. It'll do 10 sheets of paper at a time...oughta rip through a Speedo in about 4 seconds.

I do have matches. And a trash can.

He said he'd take out the trash tonight. I took it all out and told him, when he returned and asked about it, that he could clean up his crap (he has unpacked 2 out of 20 boxes). It's all over, I had to move **** so I could water my plants. I told him so and asked if he could just do something with the stuff he'd already unpacked (cardboard, paper, bins, etc). He said he was too busy. The reason I took out the trash after he said he'd do it was so that he'd have some time freed up to deal with the mess. He just doesn't get ****.

ok, so people (let's call them men for the purpose of this exercise) are sometimes beyond clueless and even really really obvious clues don't work

l'k, do you say " don't put your bathing suit in the bathroom " or is it the way you've posted it - " i'd prefer not to see it" - cuz i can tell you, my current room-mate would NOT translate "i'd prefer not" into "don't do it".

don't know if he can't or won't or if it's one of those venus/mars things - but straight up is the only thing that works.

"Don't put that in there."

Just the thought of having to say it like that kinda makes me mad, but this is your rant.

If I was in love, I might like the speedos there (trying to remember..).

So, you have a washer dryer in the basement? and steps to the outside and to the apartment?

Remembering when I used to swim at the Y... I took lessons for about a year, not knowing how to do more than a lame out of breath dogpaddle to start with, and ending with being able to do x number of laps. Then J and I went together three evenings a week; it was all great, I even got up to a mile, a slow one, except that I would sneeze for the next two hours, and he could easily do a mile at least after the first month or so.

Anyway, trying to remember what we did with our suits after we swam... we both rinsed them at the respective Y mens' and womens' showers to get the chlorine out, and changed to street clothes to drive home, each wadding the rinsed suit in a towel and bag. Threw them in the dryer for a short time.. Voila! We would have hung them, but because we had one tiny bathroom, with, get this, two doors - we could chase the dog around the house full circle - we didn't have room hardly for towels. Well, that would have been in winter. In summer we might have hung the suits on door knobs (living in Venice is a fight against mold at certain times of year).

Strange. A tiny bathroom for twenty years and I don't remember any problem with that.

But, I can see ick-city with a room mate.