Lasting Longer

How quick is he?

He, or you, could take a bullet out of the chamber beforehand. If he jerks off a little before he should go longer the second time. Or he could think about making out with Richard Simmons.

How old is he? Younger guys tend to cum soon, often "too" soon, but they can recharge and be ready for action again in an hour, and can do this several times in one night.

Take advantage of this.

Understand also, that most men last longer the older they are, but can usually only come back for more once, if that often.

Take advantage of this, too.

What is your real complaint? Is your complaint because your boyfriend cums too soon, leaving you without climax?

Or is your boyfriend concerned, and you're asking on his behalf?

The easiest way to get a young guy to not jump the gun is to have him wear a condom. Two, if he's really sensitive (not kidding).

There are also desensitizing creams available.

Now, if the problem is that YOU are left orgasmless by the time he cums, you have a different issue, which can be complex.

What most guys need to learn (and many, I've heard, never do) is that penetration is not necessarily the best way to please his woman.

What most couples need to learn (and many never do), is that "Communication is the essence of an excellent relationship." Hmm, seems I've read that somewhere before...

Couples need to talk during sex. Ask questions. "Do you like when I do this?" "Does this hurt?" "Do you like it to hurt a little?"

I'm not trying to be disgusting or tasteless here--my apologies to anyone who is offended. The point is, great sex is reliant on understanding your partner. And if you don't communicate, you won't be getting and giving the best sexual experience.

Wow, what a big topic--um, as a final note, and back to the topic at hand, have you taught your boyfriend how to make you cum without penetration at all? When he has accomplished that, he will have enjoyed the best sex of his life, because a man's greatest satisfaction is knowing that he's pleased his woman.

Why, General, I thought that was a perfect reply! I want to sleep with YOU!

Seriously though, I just want to add that grasping the penis at the base (you or him) and applying (not too much) pressure, when he feels he is nearing ejaculation, will delay it...and you can start again!

It's a good technique...but you need to have a relationship where you can be open and relaxed.

Try to remember that sex is fun, talk and laugh about it...it WILL get better!

Slappy- if he "shoots a bullet" before hand it takes him a while to get up again. he's 17.

General- Its cuz he gets me going then stops in the middle cuz he blew. he does wear condoms. will two condoms really work? we do communicate and he knows how to please me he just can't finish.

anyone know anything else to help us?

Two words: Oral Sex

Tell your man to give you an orgasm before penetration. That way, you both get yours. If you are unable to come during oral sex (which some women can't), have him get you going with oral sex and manual stimulation and when you are almost there, then he can mount up and go. Try different positions. You on top is one where you control the grind and thrust, which, if you are properly stimulated before actual penetration, can produce an orgasm in only a few minutes. Doggie style and any position from behind gives your man deeper penetration and more stimulation to his penis so avoid these positions until he gains better control. Desensitizing creams might help. Just check around. Go to a specialty store and ask someone. Don't be embarrassed. Trust me. They have been asked far more embarrassing questions and they will guide you in the right direction about what products work and which don't.

You did not mention a time reference.

Ever listen to Love Line on MTV?

You should find out what the average time before ejaculation is before complaining about your boyfriend's performance.

Love Line used to rule. They don't play it anymore. It also used to be on the radio here in the tri-state area.

I actually dated someone who had this problem and it had something to do with a psychological problem-- things weren't the best between us (lack of intimacy, etc) and it was manifesting itself in this way.

Things might be going on with him. It would be good to explore this with a qualified therapist who is trained in sexual dysfunctions.

Love Line ruled, all right.

I was referring to a particular episode...

This girl was complaining of the same problem; boyfriend didn't last long. They went through suggestions on how to avoid premature ejaculation, yada yada. Then when she was asked how long the guy lasted, she answered 30-40 minutes.

That's the answer to why this is happening.

The solution? Bang yourselves silly as many times and for as long as you can. I'm not kidding. Do it on a bed, on the kitchen table, in the shower, on the floor, in the park, in the car, hanging from a chandelier...and when you're done and you think you can't do it anymore...do it all again!

Practice, practice, practice!

I completely agree with Kiky: Practice makes the master. Now I'll try to get some of the advices the a2k'es gave you together with some I got, so you can have like a detailed draft of what you could proceed with.

Things to practice together:

If he shoots a bullet before hand there's no doubt he's really fast. As someone explained bfore you can bang as many times as you can for him to relief some pressure and for you to be more satisfyed.

Try diferent positions, especially you on top can help you control the movement and be more satisfyed. He'll last longer in that position.

Things he can do on his own:

Use Desensitizing creams or condoms with Desensitizing lubricants. Those really work and help you bang for hours. Do not use two condoms at the same time. That can lead into a rupture of the condom and I bet both of you do not want that.

Masturbate bfore you get into action will really help him last longer as the first time is always the fastest one.

Exercise the pelvic region. There's a muscle with which your guy can control his pee. If he contracts it when he's peeing he'll stop inmediately. That contraction movement is what he can do to exercise it -without being peing of course-. Whatever he's doing, practice contraction exercises -let's say 20 series of 20 contractions during the day or more if he wants- that will help him control his ejaculation when the time comes. He must do it every day.

Long lasting masturbations. This can be a really good exercise. Tell your guy to try to masturbate without cumming for as much time as he can. He have to experiment intense pleasure but he has to learn how to control his body at the same time. If he's about to cum he just have to press his penis hard for a few seconds and then continue to masturbate in a more gentle way but don't, don't stop at all, just whenever is absolutely needed. That's why they call this exercise "long lasting masturbation". One thing your guy can do if he watches porn is to sit and watch a porn movie, lets say 2 hours long, while masturbating and do not cum under any circumstance until the movie ends. This is a heck of an excercise and can be really fun and helpful.

Hope this advices help you both.
Enjoy!

i dont suggest 2 condoms...it may solve the problem of him cumming too soon but it may cause a break in the condom or for it to come off...so unless u want to be pregnant, dont do it

i dont know who said it but someone said to do it a lot. i told him that and he said that the more he does it the less he wants to. what could be causing this?

then don't do it a lot. Tell them how to excercise and he'll be able to last long. Is as simple as someone said: practice, practice, and more practice. Either doing it or making him masturbate. Make him excercise

Lasting longer
Tell him to think of Prince Charles fiance - that shoud do it!

Is a very good idea,
Also there was an issue of mens health a while back on this, make sure he is starting out slow not going completely inside you with every thrust, There was a type of counting method just go inside about an inch or so pull back but not completely out then on the 7th or 8th go deeper and then back to about just going an inch or so then 7th or 8th again go a bit deeper and the so on and so on.

Ok after that back to the Computer forum for me



Now that is just down right demanding