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Fri 7 Jan, 2005 12:31 pm
I always paid attention to peoples reltionships today and the way it is out there. i have a certain fear about it that noone can understand. Alot of folks may get this fear now and then but they still want to get in the bed which I think is destructive too. Because of my believe there is a section in it that discusses marriage. I don't feel like getting a devorce like all these other folks and raise a kid on my own. And I'm very young. But I told them I don't have no interest or erge to married anytime soo. I'm only focued on my self and my life ahead.
Are your parents telling you to marry a specific person, or just as a concept?
If it's just as a concept, they can certainly express their opinions but if it's just in the conceptual stage, doesn't really mean much -- you can certainly argue it on an intellectual level but it doesn't have much practical application. Maybe you'll change your mind when you meet a specific person you fall in love with, maybe not.
If it's a specific person I'd want to know more about the circumstances -- are you pregnant? Are you part of a culture that has arranged marriages? Why are they encouraging you to marry this person?
Another aspect you should consider if your parents are in charge of you you're too young to marry. If you're old enough to marry, then you're old enough to make your own decision and they cannot force you to marry..
Yea I don't get the question. If you are young (like under 18) then I don't think you should even think or worry about marrige. It might matter what country you're living in also.
I'm going to go under the assumption that you're in the US. Your parents cannot coerce you into a marriage. If you're a minor, it would be child abuse and, if you are over 18, you are not under their control and can therefore tell them no. And this is even if your religion or culture has arranged marriages.
We do not require that everyone in the US get married. It's not a matter of age, gender, religion, national origin or anything else. You have the right to be single.
Could it, perhaps, be a sexuality situation? Are you perhaps not heterosexual or not sure, and your folks have picked up on that? Are they trying to get you to marry so as to push you to heterosexuality?
Is it for grandchildren? Inheritance? Respectability? To cover up an out of wedlock pregnancy? Because they feel like telling you what to do?
We need more information, thanks in advance.