Is it worth all the hurt?

Hello, Sabrina. Greetings from another Melbournian!

Actually, I'm not the world's most teriffic advice giver. Not like some very wise people here who I hope you get to meet.

Could I ask you, though: How old are you & how old is your boyfriend? And how long have you actually been together?

you're the only one who can answer that question. It's your body, it's your life, it's your circumstance.

Did your boyfriend agree with your decision?

But here's a question about the "relationship"-- if it's not fit to have a child in, is it worth being in it?

Sabrina--

You loved him so much you had an abortion?

I presume he did not want a child. Did you?

Did/do you have strong feelings about the morality of abortion?

Did he have any feelings except not wanting to be encumbered?

Has he expressed any understanding of your feelings?


What do the answers tell you?

Sabrina...

It's over. You've done it. It was the one decision you had to make, and you have made it.
If this is all too recent, the consequences will linger around for a little while, and it would be no different for whatever decision you could have made.

I've been in this site long enough to know that, unfortunately, it is really not the site for you to cope with in this particular situation. Nothing wrong with a2k, I actually love it here (also came for advice and stayed), but it's just not what you might be looking for.

Try the WebMD message boards. You'll get what you need there. I think. I hope.

I'd love to say so much more, but…
Good Luck.
Specially with the relationship.