Wow, why is your life so busy??? Does she have a ridiculously high stress job that doesn't leave room for a social life? If she does, I hope she makes a lot of money.
Ok, Ok I'll get serious. When someone says, "I don't have time but we should get together when things settle down", I seriously gag a little bit, because it's just so lame. I actually met this guy the other week and he's pretty bad at the whole call-back thing. By chance I ran into him two nights ago and he apologized for not calling because things have been "so busy", and all I wanted to do was reach out and tweak his nose or something b/c it just sounded so cliche and sad. I blew him off. I don't have time for ppl who don't have time.
THe bottom line:::: find someon with whom you like to share time, and who HAS the time to share. If this relationship is meant to come around again, it will, but you deserve someone who can spend some time ON and WITH you.