Depressed! I want him back...

Hi all,

I am really helpless...would appreciate all replies. Sorry for the long post. Here goes my story:

My bf of 3yrs+ dumped me on Xmas eve. All along we (esp him) have the feeling that we are dragging the relationship & sooner or later we'll break. He has mentioned to me before that he does not love me as much as before and when i asked him how? he say he'll spend a memorable Xmas eve and Xmas nite with me. He also said few times that there's a lack of sparks between us. I was like so long already where to rekindle the sparks? We are so used to each other already..... He say he dun wanna lead me on any further.

I couldn't contact him on 23rd Dec nite, after his work he'll usually call me. So ard 12+am i called him but his mobile was off! all the way till 2+am he called and say that he can't spend this xmas with me! he confessed that there's another ger. They noe each other only 2-3 days.

For all information. this is the 2nd time! the first time was ard 2 yrs back and i took him back. I really love him alot and its been so long. I din want to let go off the relationship so when he came back i took him back.

This time i realise tis ger is my ex classmate. She is not someone i like. She is flirty, bitchy, and always only hangs out with guys. She dun have ger frens. Btw she's not pretty and abit ah lian. His colleagues even describe her as "Horny". I really dunno what he sees in her. Maybe she noes how to flirt and his eyes stick stamp.

He asked me abt her and i told him everything i noe. He say he still trust me. He start to have doubts abt her. today he told her abt me. She was shocked and din noe we were an item before. But he lied to her tat we broke off 1 yr ago. She got a fren's mobile no. from my ex and wanted to call her and ask. My ex dared to call me and tell me to call my fren to lie that we broke off long ago. I refused!! how could he ask me to call my fren to lie for tat bitch. He was saying now he's like two-timing like tat and he say "Dun care already, if dun have den dun have."

Pls advise me what to do. I noe i am useless. All my frens say to forget abt him and move on. But i really love him, so long already. Honestly deep down a part of him still wants him back badly. Is there any way that i can have him back?