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Tue 21 Dec, 2004 10:11 am
Hey-
I'm new at this so hopefully I do it right...
My wife and I have been married for two and a half years, and I have known her for over seven now, and all-in-all the marriage is great. We've always got along, known how to work through problems and have never really fought. We both work full time, and share an apartment while we finish college, and we share all the responsibilities that come with it.
There is one issue that I'm just not sure how to remedy though. Our bedroom relationship has never been bad, and like they say ?'practice makes perfect,' so it's been getting better and better each time. My problem lies in the instigation. I am always the one who initiates; she never seems like she wants to have sex, until I start the foreplay, then she's in the mood. I believe that if I was to sit back and wait for her to initiate, we would never have sex again! I was just wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get my wife to be more forthcoming and show me how she feels.
I know there are some out there with bigger problems than mine, and I am grateful to have such a loving wife, and a great relationship. Your responses would be helpful, alwaysme.
wrap a hundred dollar bill around your unit...if she's like most women she'll smell it out like a beagle
BP, thanks for the laugh this morning.
I would go with the talk to her about it idea. Wrapping the money around your unit may work, but if she doesn't get it unwrapped before you use your unit, then you are just throwing good money down an empty hole. Of course, if she gets excited over $1 bills, then BPB may have something.
Seriously though, talk to her about it. My wife and I had much the same thing when we got married a long 22 years ago. She enjoyed sex, but was always hesitant to initiate it. There were several different reasons, but after talking about it, I was assured it was not because she did not enjoy sex or want it regularly, but it just was not her thing to initiate it regularly. She slowly (very slowly) got more comfortable initiating sex and now she probably initiates it a third of the time.
So, to condense my ramblings, talk to her about it. Tell her how much it would mean to you, and then, even when she shows a hint of initiating, tell her how much of a turn on it was that she did what she did. It may lead her to be a bit bolder the next time in initiating things.
Hope this all made sense.
I almost forgot...after wrapping with the hundred dollar bill....dip it in chocolate...might as well get a little oral foreplay.....
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