Thanks for the reply. though it isn't my 'job', I refuse to stand around and do nothing as the people I love tear each other....well, my mom tearing my dad apart as he cries helplessly for his horrible actions.
So far, I'm going to make an appointment with a therapist and see if that can help guide my dad to handle the situation before it just gets into a worse direction.
So far I told my dad I still love him and I'm here for him always. I told him we need him to talk to a person that can help him professionally. My mom won't like therapy because there's nothing wrong with her and probably only sees my dad as the issue to fix. My mom started self injury/suicide threats to guilt my dad. I took away every possible kitchen weapon; little did I knew she had a sharp one hidden on her the whole time...I'll be keeping all kitchen utility weapons for the week. we'll order take-out/to-go-food.
Any other suggestions are welcomed.
Update: They just stopped talking 10 minutes ago and went to their rooms. It's 5:32am now in california. So far, it was 3 hours of lecture and letting it all out on my dad with her list of guilt and shame on him as he cried broken. They called the hooker from Vietnam and tried telling her off, was anti-climatic with a whatever, you're the bitch - from the hooker and hung up. I guess she had more clients to care for.
Edit: I forgot to mention I told my mom I supported her taking it out on my dad and she looked totally satisfied at the end of the night destroying my dad lol I told her I support her and way to go, but don't ever talk about harming yourself again or I'll get mad again. (I was very rude and angry at her face when I found out she started false suicide guilting my dad but I wasn't taking any chances because she self harmed before).
For now I think I'm in good standing with both of them if they need me. I just wish to help my mom with her controlling issues by using all the guilt she always seem to have memorized every single one. She's not great with communication.
TO THE POINT: I just need help what to do with my stubborn mom to do therapy session with dad. That way I'll save $150 for making a seperate appointment for my mom.