@Grlnxtdr,
I know what you mean.
I can give myself that feeling within a couple of minutes, but no one else can even come close to it!
I also use to show my ex where I liked to be touched etc but it just didn't feel the same and didn't feel pleasurable, so it annoyed him and me!
I am not body confident, hate someone looking at my body so I know that a major part of my issue is my mind with what I think etc.