You're right fishin', no sugar coating.
Now, from my perspective... you ARE being a selfish prick. I'm sorry, but you are.
You're talking about how depressed you are and that your marriage might be damaged goods because she won't swallow ???? Or that you MIGHT never get to come inside her mouth? Did I get that right? Oh please... I know a man has needs, but this goes beyond being inconsiderate.
You said that you were well aware that your wife have had a previous abusive and persuasive relationship from day one. Now, I hope you understand that she needs someone who will uphold and be supportive of this compromising situation. Not this:
Quote:3] I'm feeling a little jealous of the ex husband who used to get his way but I don't - and because he "persuaded" her to do stuff, I feel like I'm now feeling the brunt of it all with the hang ups she has.
It seems, however, that she is willing to overcome. Plus, did she explicitly answered 'No.' to your question (if she'd ever do that for you)?