should I get my ex a graduation present?

If the relationship ended without acrimony. To prevent confusion as to your intent i.e. it's just a friendly gesture and recognition of accomplishment. If you do it and feel good about it, you did right.

The card's OK. It acknowledges the person as an achiever. Presents are iffy, as they have a reciprocal thing built in.

Put it this way, were you planning to get them a xmas present?

Yeah.. I think the card is a good idea... Cards are always a good idea.

The present.. hmmm.. I wouldn't.

Is your ex part of your past--or part of your present?

Do you still have strong romantic feelings for him? Do thoughts of a future together haunt your mind?

If so, no.

If your feelings are friendly, give him a card from a friend.

I agree about the card. A gift might be perceived as having "strings" on it!

I like the card idea, but not really the present idea, for the reasons that others have already stated.. I'm going to be so bold here to go one step further and suggest you don't sign the card using the word "love" at all either, even if you do feel that way. Keep it light.

Hmm.. im jumping on the same bandwagon.
Card is actually a nice gesture. Im sure that during the 3 years you were together you have helped him work twords his graduation so why not let him know that you are happy for him in his success? 3 years worth of time isnt something you should just trash. If you two are really going to remain ' friends' then it is the friendly thing to do to acknowledge the others accomplishemnts.
Gifts.... save that for an intimate relationship. He will be getting gifts from family members at this time. You dont need to add to that. A simple card with an acknowledgement will work wonders.

I think it is ok and best to completely forget your ex. Don't bother with a card and certainly not a present. If/when you see him, offer your congratulations.

buy him a card.

......and stalk them.

You's silly!

yeah! Stalking is fun!!

Yup, a card will do. He really wants me to go to the graduation, but I say no way! I didn't tell him that, I just said maybe, but I definately think that would be a no no.

A card is a nice thing.

Letting him know you won't be attending the graduation is the 'proper' thing to do, but 'proper' isn't always comfortable.