So I saw this thread just before I really, really had to go to bed last night, and posted something, but the site was down temporarily ("Internal Server Error" or something) and then I really, really, REALLY had to go to bed, but I was still thinking about this so I woke up at like 3:00 AM with an idea. As my 3:00 AM ideas are often quite bad, I wanted to give it some time after I woke up to see what I thought about it. Here's where I am now.
First, minor point -- you probably know this, but this
I do believe it might make us better parents by relieving some of the stress involved with the constant vigilence required by child raising.
makes me wonder how much of a time commitment you think is involved. Sozlet goes to preschool 3 days a week, 2.5 hours per day. Surely you spend more than 7.5 hours a week away from Mo now, doing your work?
Anyway, I think you and I are very similar in a lot of our thought processes and parenting instincts, so I was wondering about the divergence here. I was coming up with different ways that preschool has been good for the kid, and had remembered how cool it was when during her first week, in response to my query about how school had been that day, she said with some wonderment, "It was great -- even without you!!"
This led me to, we're starting from a very different place in terms of attachment. Sozlet has been deeply attached to us from the beginning, co-sleeping, extended breastfeeding, whole shebang. I'm concerned with keeping that confidence and attachment while letting her branch out, letting her realize that there are ways to have fun without
You have a very different situation on your hands, though -- I'm not sure about fun, per se, but Mo has a surfeit of adults who have some kind of claim on him and attachment to him. For your situation, it makes sense to use this time to solidify your attachment to him rather than encouraging branching out.
Does that make sense?
Re: the article, it wasn't what I was looking for, though I thought it had some interesting points. I'll keep trying to find what I was looking for, as it was largely about social skills in the more kid-to-kid sense rather than learning skills. I have definitely noticed a major change in sozlet when it comes to social skills, for the better. Part of this is an only child thing (and another part of why I find preschool important, at least in our kid-deprived neighborhood -- another difference, from what you say.) Between when we moved and when she started preschool, she had a tough time at the playground. Too needy, just didn't have the signals down. She'd keep looking to me for support/ intervention. Now she just goes up to some kids and starts playing with them. (I can't see what she says, wish I knew.) She knows how it works.