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Mon 6 Dec, 2004 08:47 pm
Hey guys/ladies I could really use some advice
My girl friend and I have been together on and off now for almost 2 years. We have been engaged before, but due to a short separation it ended. We have been back together since but the thought of getting engaged again hasn't. For the past 6 months I was living in California and she was living here in Michigan. I would fly home any chance that I had just so I could be with her. She had joined the NAVY and her bootcamp wasn't suppose to start until after the new year. Knowing that I had little time, I moved back home just so I could be with her. Little did either of us know her date to leave was changed to Oct. 26th 2004 which only left us 4 days to spend together. We spent as much time as we possibly could together since she was real busy with getting ready to leave and all. She comes back home for X-mas and I was thinking of asking her to marry me again, but something inside of me is saying don't to just set her free so that I am not holding her back from anything. Life has taken us into separate directions lately and I have no idea why. I love her with all of my heart and all that I am, but I have this feeling that I would just be holding her back from following her dreams if we were to get engaged. I don't know maybe this is just dumb talk, or maybe it's just some way of me trying to deal with the fact that she's gone. My heart doesn't want to lose her, but my mind is saying otherwise. Please help me out here, am I just talking stupid? Or is my heart just lonely and talking for me? What should I do?
Mikeymike--
Follow your boyish sense, not your bleeding heart.
Wait for her if you like, but don't try to tie her down when she has made it very clear that she's starting a career with a lot of traveling.
You sound like a guy who likes stability and predictability. You're not going to find this sort of life as a Navy Husband.
Good luck.
Mikey... she has taken an oath of service which binds her to that commitment.
Until her term of service is done, you are a secondary element in her life; her service to the Navy must take precedence.
Can you accept that?
It is time to move on. It has been for a while.
Magus, yea I am willing to accept that. And I was even willing to go wherever she is to be with her! I think my best bet is to wait until she gets home for X-mas and just talk this out with her to see her point of view and feelings on this matter as well. I had a long talk with her sister in-law to be and she feels that there is still a strong love between us and that we just need to talk.
Quote:I had a long talk with her sister in-law to be and she feels that there is still a strong love between us
I think it's up to the Ms. to tell you that. Not anybody else. Well indeed, you two do need to talk.
hey this is my opinion but the information that will bring you closer to the truth come from your knowlege of the situation. Well about your heart, it can be telling you to let her go at the same time it could be just potecting you from hurt. I am in the military and I see where you are comming from as well as see some what of where she may be comming from. For me I do have a commitment to the military ,however I know I can't do this forever so what I would like is something that will last even though the military and things around me do not. I, being in the military would love to have someone there that I know will be there, that understands what I am doing and suppots me in it. You still need a life though you are in the military. What I think you should do is see if she is willing to hold on, if you both can hold on knowing that no matter what happens or where she goes there is always some one there, then i bellieve it can work. If both of your love can accept that ,then it is strong and i believe it can work.
Goood Luck ,Good Bless
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