Guy problem please help.

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"Alright i need despret help, ive asked all mi girlifriends and guyfriends on advice but none of them are giving me a clear answer.

Theres this one guy named dan that i have a huge crush for and he is if not my first love. I always think about him, i always long 2 be held by him. And i have, we had a fling starting in may when we started calling each other quite requentli, this one park was like our meeting place cause he is a biker and all both of our friends went there.

I start out veri very shy. When he was around i would wait for him to come to me and talk you no. Anyways before we left each day we would give each other hugs. That is the day he told me he had a girlfriend. But not to just say thats life and give up on him cause there could be a relationship in the future.

Well i have to mention one thing. He is 2 yrs older. Im in gr 9 hes in 11 now. I still contined to talk to him on the phone frequentli discussing our day. I was still shy, but if i wanted this guy i would have to over com this fear.

Anyways i started to get the impression that maybe i was his backup? and i questioned him on this, he said deffintly not and so and so.

Any ways he ended breakinn up with his girlfriend. And then me and him started seeing each other more and more. But no of asking me out. We called each other more and more. Then we started making out.

Well one day he told me we needed to take a break until we go out. I totalli understood i wanted this to. WE talked on the phone each like as tho we were goin out, we talked of what it will be like when we went out. All until the day i found out he was still going out with his girlfriend while talking to me the way he was, thhen al came in place, the break and everything.

I flipped out! why didnt he tell me! i questione dhim on all this yelled at him called him a lair and his reply was, he wanted a chance with me so bad and he knew it would be over and i would react like this if i found out.
But hs ew and him started talking again, and she is hys first love and there relationship was off and on for like a year. anyways things went downhill for a bit until i saw him at the park one day and he told me he needed to talk.
We talked things though and we continued to call each other in friend manner.

Anyways a month passed or so and we were talkn on the fone one night for a while said our goodbyes then he called back bout 15 20 min later. He was crying he had told me he dumped hys girlfriend and i felt soo speical and touched cause i thought it meant alot that a guy can show his emotiions to a girl like that that he really trusts her. well i talked to him and let him calm down for a bit. Anyways he told meh When we get into highshcool hes going to pop the big question. And he was so sure of it!

anyways highschool came never happened. I mean a numer of guys asked me out, but i didnt say yes to any of them for one thing because i ccouldnt brign miself to like ne 1but him and because i was waiting for him. I was tired of waiting 2 months into highscoll still no question but still phone calls.
I told him we would be better of not thinking bout going out and just remain friends and he agreeded he sounded prettie happie bout it.
Im so lost without him tho. I canot like n e other gui! because i love him. i always think bout him although i no i made the right choice, i got mi friend to talk 2 him and tell him all mi feelings fer him, he said he felt the same wya i was just 2 young. Psh, thats bull. if i was 2 young whi did he start talking with me in the first place. Semi came and this one girl asked him 2 it and he said yes. i didnt go, i couldnt bring miself to go and see him there it would tear me apart.

he still calls but i dnt pik up and in the hallways at school i ignore him and pretend not to notice.

please gyve me som adivce on this situation and everythyng you think. should i try something to try and get him back, but hes the type of guy really layed back kind of like thats life kinda gui o well move on you no. Please help me@! i want him back so bad! wha can i do to do this! "

Thanks, panzade, you're a peach! :-)

Sorry, confused_star, sounds like its time to move on. He does sound like he wants to keep his options open -- he has had plenty of chances to clarify things with you, and he hasn't taken those chances. That means something.

If it's any consolation, you moving on might shake him out of his compacency and make him realize that he can't depend on you just putting your life on hold for him. You moving on means he might finally take decisive action of some kind.

But move on.

Good luck!

Advice
I'll try and help as much as I can. So let me get this strait...your hooking up with this guy who has a girlfriend and keeps promising to go out with you but instead stays with his chick. Sounds to me like he has you as a back up...a hit it and quit it if, you will. What you need to do is have confidence. Guys want what they cant have. Make it seem like your having the time of your life without him and are better off without him killing your game. Date other guys, let him SEE you with these other guys fawning over you. Then when he tries to come back, tell him no. Guys like a chase. If he thinks your sitting there waiting for him he's going to use and abuse that. If you strait up tell him no he'll start chasing after you because as I said, Guys want what they cant have. I hope you take my advice, I've had to use this before and it works every time. Best of luck :wink:
.:*Paris*:.
PS- Are you sure you want a guy who cheated on his girlfriend with you? Once a cheater, always a cheater.

well, I can't agree with "once a cheater, always a cheater." That's not always the case, since some people can honestly redeem themselves back from being a cheater.

HOWEVER.
This guy doesn't sound like he's worth your trouble. I'm gonna be honest here, you sound a little young (grade 9 really isn't that old, romantically-speaking) to be so certain that you cannot love anyone else.
Give it a try.
Because he's not reliable, from what I'm seeing. He looks like a guy that can't decide whether or not he wants to keep you, but he enjoys having you there when he's lonely. That's not a good situaiton for you. He behaves as if he thinks, "Whenever I need someone to be there, she's there," and he sees no need to give you a relationship. Why would he? He doesn't need to commit to you to get your affection, right? He has no motivation to become your boyfriend, does he?

If he can keep getting back together with his girlfriend and be happy with that, DON'T CHASE HIM. Don't do it, is all I can say. If he truly loved you in the first place he wouldn't play these games with you.

He's not worth it, and you're too young to waste your time on someone like this.