Temptation

hmmm... this is a tough one because I know people who have cheated once and never said anything and everything was fine. But then I've also known people who've cheated and never said anything and someone inadvertantly or purposely told the significant other and all hell broke loose. And then there are those who can't hold it in and it eats away at their insides and the end up telling. What happens after she tells is anyones guess. He may say f*ck you and leave or he may be hurt and pissed but want to work through it.

Trust takes months, sometimes years to build and seconds to destroy.

Tell her good luck cuz this isn't an easy one.

I think that these people really need to revaluate their relationship.

My boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for nine months. He lived in Northern California, and I was residing in Chicago. Not once did either of us cheat. We both were very open if we felt tempted and honest about what we were doing. I knew all of his friends which made it easier for me to trust him, but he had nothing but blind trust since I moved there only knowing one person.

If the distance is a problem then it leads to an array of different problems. My suggestion is for your friend to be honest about the situation. They can go from there, if nothing is said then it could haunt there entire relationship, and that does not seem logical to me.

(Yes, my boyfriend and I are still together, we actually are living together and the distance made our relationship stonger.)

Every relationship I've been in, there has been a point where we became long distance (different states/countries). This didn't increase temptation. You continue to live your life. You prioritize what's important to you and stick to it.

IMO, I think this person should be a man or woman and admit to their weaknesses/mistake/fling. How unfortunate for the other person to go on "dating" someone who is to be looked at as a potential spouse ....and be lied to and disrespected ...to such a degree.

I think it's bad if someone (hypothetically) needs someone to physically be there 24-7 for them to stay loyal.

WOW!!!! We are on the exact same page Joahaeyo!!! You and I think the same and thats how I expressed it to her but she is still very scared to mention anything and I know its not my place to. But I just hate it when someone doesn't see the big picture of whats going on when thier not around.

I'm not saying I don't understand that this must be difficult for her, and she may feel extremely guilty and truly plan on never letting this happen again ....just still a shame.

I'm sure whatever was meant to be ....will happen on its own even if she keeps this in the closet. Hopefully she learned from this or takes the time to really ask herself why she may have done this.