Girl Problems

Heaven forbid you should end up screwing an attractive girl who "goes against your values"! What is it with young guys these days? In my day, if a girl was hot, and she was interested, my "values" kind of got filed away for later.

You've spoken of your feelings, but what about hers?

Could be you're not at all important to her, and if you backed away she wouldn't even notice, or might actually be relieved.

Wow, what a concept.

Learn how to say what you think, genuinely, but also politely.
She may drop you first, or, you could start to learn how to speak up when you differ with people and find that some times that can be a useful conversation.

We should all be held accountable by the same values no matter what our age. She might want sex for sex sake, fine if she does, but to deliberately use a girl is the very nearest thing to outright rape, and in my view should be classed as a rape form.
Questioner
The only decent way to deal with this circumstance is in being respectfully
honest, and so this must include the fact that she blows you away physically.

Even if she got in the way of your scrimmaging?

Even then, I promise you.

If you go away, I promise she won't miss you for long, if at all.

The putting of sex before all else does not denote virility, a measure of sexual appetite, yes, it proves no more. Such prioritizing is only ever through want of adequate control/strength of character. No matter how virile a male, with adequate strength of character he will still be more than an animal.

Talk to her politely and with respect and act normal. If she goes beyond limit that is against your values, stay away. Yourself is much more important than her, so youve got nothing to lose if she dislikes you. You could say "Im sorry but your presence disturbs my well-being". Ask help from your friends so they got your back. And be mentally strong. Physical looks and words wont bring you down.

It`s impossible to know what`s beneath the surface of this girl, she may not even quite know herself, she may quite easily be desperate to be loved, and if so that will be for substantial reason, and reason which fell way outside of her control. The person that she portrays to you may not be that person beneath, and she may be highly vulnerable, very severely compromised should she feel rejected. You are not more important than her, we are all of equal value.

One suggestion might be this, (never concern yourself over lying if it is to save someone`s feelings, taking it of course that your lies can be covered). that a girl you loved, and deep down have never stopped loving, has returned home. Only compliment her on her personality, and make sure that she is made aware of just how attractive you experience her to be., but at the same time you must stress the imperative that you are seen to be faithful. Incase she should ponder over your sincerity ask her if the two of you can still communicate on Facebook, and tell her that you want to be kept in touch with her latest news. She may grow on you over time, you may finish up being glad to number her as one of your friends. Bare in mind, she has ample time still to change.

Hi there,

Well, talk with her about your vision, in order to engage her in a conversation about what you both stand for.
Also, be polite and offer time only for sex and having a good time, so try to limit the moments with her only to sex.
Be funny and challenge her when you believe that is necessary, but don't be aggressive, arrogant or annoying , just have a relaxant chat.

Make her feel great and respect her, try not to judge, despite strong "values differences".

Let her have the idea that she will leave you, is always better!
Good luck! And be gentleman!

PS: have fun!

That`s exactly what not to do, for such a conversational circumstance would likely mean to insult her immediately prior to dumping her, it`s the most callose option going. Lateral thinking is required not merely that which we are programmed with, not merely that which sounds right. There is no calling for him to reinforce the obvious/that which he has already been made aware of. The exercise has no probable up side. The biggest insult it`s possible to give a girl would be in offering time only for sex, and such an exercise, or its like, many times makes the difference between depression and suicide. Most of these killings are by members of their own peer group. To make her feel good and to show her respect only do the precise opposite of this advice, and it is simply impossible to treat her like scum whilst being the perfect gentlemen. To be a gentlemen one has to pay a personal price, not clear one`s chest, take of the flesh, then dump. You`ll just have to trust me on this one. There is no such thing as having your cake and eating it whilst at the same time putting a second persons needs in front of your
own, and as for support for all we know she may require infinitely more of this commodity than he. Where it concerns relationships often times the obvious approach is to be avoided at all cost. I do n`t expect anybody to enjoy this read, much which is unspoken practise in our society is severely floored. Everybody is in the rut of their social psychological programming, nothing ever questioned, but my interest is only ever in the questioning, so therefore in the process of social philosophical progression. Only by such an approach as this can one hope to first identify the real victim, and then go on to reliably save them.